I did that when younger. I was cursed with recurring major depression and experienced episodes as far back as I rememer. Combine that with almost non existent potty training and the result should be obvious. I rememer being told by a doctor it was laziness plain and simple. I remember a counseler came to our house and actually answering the questions for me "whats your favorite subject ? ......uh, before i could reply reading she said "recess on the playground , right ? I hung my head and agreed but recess was something I hated. How does a 7 year old kid articulate the horror of severe depression ? Most don't and suffer in silence. I experienced trauma from a violent alcholic father and that combined with depression had to be a major contributing factor. Why didn't I tell anyone I felt so bad I welcomed death ? No one ever asked. Not implying this is the cause but it's the cause in many cases and then almost always ignored and written off as "laziness".
My Son Has The Same Issue He Is 1o with epilepsy and does it still i don't know why this is happening and i can relate to it. Has your son had laxative? it causes poops my son hasn't but I'm trying to help you out here Same Issue Thx if you come up with a solution i would like to hear it :) -James
The only thing I can think of is that this situation probably won't be fixed until something drastic happens such as other kids teasing him about his cleanliness. Sometimes this is the only way to fix a problem of this sort of nature. Also too, there will come a time that he'll begin to like people and will have to shape up in order to grab their attention. I think that if you just left him alone for a while, he'll fix things himself. Kids tend to do things like this in order to get attention from their parents. Is there a chance of there being a underlying problem that existed before this problem started? Anything from family changes, losing somebody of importance to him, switching schools, divorce, death, anything? Some kids don't realize what they've done until it has been pointed out to them. Some kids just don't care until that moment of "aha!" happens to them. He could just be doing it because he knows it bugs you and this is his way of getting attention. I think that if you were to take away his games for more than a week or two, show him who is in control, then this may get to him and continue to be on him about his habits of cleanliness. It certainly sounds like he knows what he is doing especially if he has already shown you that he knows how to fix the problem after having something he cherishes taken away. Have you ever made him clean his own laundry by hand first before it goes into your machine? This may make him realize how much work it is to clean up after him and how gross it is to have to clean his own underwear.