He needs to understand this behavior is not OK, but he doesn't need to feel "dirty" or "nasty" because of it. He was exposed to something he shouldn't have been, and is reacting to it. Sex isn't dirty, but his behavior is inappopriate. I would be a bit more subtle. If he does this type of behavior, I would isolate him from the other children the rest of the day, or the next day. My explanation would be, "If I can't trust you around the other children, you have to be by yourself. I have to keep you and them safe."
By the way, spanking can create some sexual stimulus in chilren who are acting out this way. Be careful.
Good luck and God bless.
Make him uderstand that it is not ok. Also try to find out exactly what that girl told and did to your son. You may find an aswer to the problem.
I have been online looking for help today because my 6 year old boy; for the first time, went to his friend's house (another 6 years old boy) and they were caught hiding~ doing inappropriate things..(at the time it was thought to be talking about bodily parts)..but after my interrogation on the way home I find out that they were both touching and showing each other their penis...even "kissing it" As to who instigated; at this point who knows? The boys say it is each other, but I cannot understand why and where did this come from. I asked my son "Has this happened before, has anyone ever touched your penis, have you touched anyone else's penis?" And the answer is "No, no, no". I have explained that this is unacceptable and inappropriate behavior. He now feels so ashamed and badly. I have explained that he has now shown me that he cannot play with other children appropriately; and will not be allowed to go to anyone's house without me or his father present. Now we have addressed the issue and consequence...how do I calm myself down? What does this mean?!?!?!?!?! Did I do the right thing? HELP!!!!!!!
I am a childcare provider and I have a 5 yr old little boy that is also showing his privates to others and asking to see theirs as well. This has happened with three other little boys ages 4 and 5 and they have all joined in without missing a beat. Now I have tried so much... timeouts, scolding, calm questions and answers... but nothing is getting him to stop. He did this again yesterday and I kept him in timeout all day. Now I don't know if hee needs to be in timeout all day today as well or if he has learned his lesson beecause h has already told me many times today that he will not do it ever again! What do I do now?
I have some very curious children as well, but not as curious as others, Im sure. It does help reading as much on the subject as possible and this is a well thought out website as regards to the topic.
Visit this website: http://nctsn.org/nctsn_assets/pdfs/caring/sexualdevelopmentandbehavior.pdf
This is NORMAL INQUISITIVE CHILD BEHAVIOR. Most children go through this phase of development where they begin to notice and recognize the differences between boys and girls. This is were "playing doctor" or "playing house" comes from. Letting them explore their bodies without shame will lead to a healthy understanding of their own place in society.
His actions are perfectly okay . Try not to listen to the rants of feminists and social engineers (socialists). They will twist natural children development to further their agendas.
Either let nature take it's course and allow him to discover, on his own, what a vagina looks like or sit him down and show him one. There are pictures online, in books, magazines and you probably have one too. Don't make it sexual, just educational and informative. Sex education begins here.
I know this is an old post, but I really felt I needed to say something. I understand your fear. And you need to understand that the way you responded is actually REALLY abusive, emotionally and physically. It IS totally normal to want to see others' privates, boys and girls. Kids and humans in general are curious. It doesn't sound at all like he's been sexually abused by the 8yo girl. Please get in touch with a therapist for yourself. You need help overcoming your own shame around human bodies. Yes, we teach children that those are private, and we supervise them to help them manage their curiosity, to be a buffer when the curiosity feels stronger than their willpower...ya know...because they are 6 years old and the control center of their brain is the size of a pea and about as weak as one too. But shaming him leads to hiding, as you saw, and when he's a teen things will get WAY worse. He needs to know that your love for him is unconditional, that he is safe to come to you for help when he doesn't know how to manage his big feelings and urges. You showed him that you aren't safe to talk to, and told him that he is unloveable because of his desire to know what a human body looks like. I really don't understand why you say "ewww" that he wanted to know. You clearly had sex to create him. Do you find your husband disguisting for wanting to see your naked body? Again, this is where I say, you really really need therapy. I realize your kiddo is probably grown now but it's never to late to change and repair the relationship. And anyone else reading this...PLEASE don't shame your kids. Get help. Stay calm. Show love. Validate. And boundary with your own supervision, not with punishments. Punishments teach kids to hide, not to stop the behavior.