I have a very bright, intelligent and outgoing 3 year old son. He is in pre-school, but seems to be further along mentally than the rest of his class. He knows his ABC's and has even started to identify very small words. He can count to 30 and enjoys putting together puzzles with at least 24 pieces all by himself. He enjoys building towers and rockets with blocks and legos and he even tries to draw letters using his left and right hands. However, he is very strong-willed and demanding. He resists every effort towards potty training... although, he has been doing a little better lately. He is very aggressive with other children; pushing, hitting, kicking and throwing things... and usually with no reason. When he is asked why he did that... he replies that he just had to do it. He is very smart-mouthed already... which I find shocking. He makes up excuses and even tells fibs or blames someone else (even the dog) for something he has done. At his pre-school they are fed up with his behavior, but they do not discipline at all except to redirect him from a situation. They will not even do time-out... (which, by the way, I am looking into a different school) I have tried time-out at home, but it doesn't fase him. I have taken his toys away, doesn't fase him. The only thing that does work is to spank his bottom... (this is always very controlled on my part). However, this only works for me and my husband... what about his grandparents, babysitters, teachers.... etc... How can such a smart child be so defiant and so young? Don't get me wrong... when he WANTS to be... he is quite the charmer and sweet as sugar. He can melt even the hardest of hearts, but he is breaking mine.
I am thinking of putting him in a "true" Montessori environment, because I think maybe he is frustrated at his school and he seems to behave better when he is mentally challenged.
Any advice?