You didn't state what kind of "pills" your wife took and what doctor would prescribe such medicines so far into the pregnancy. I suggest you have a talk with her OB-GYN and get his/her opinion.
ADHD sometimes disappears with the onset of puberty so you might inquire of your son's doctor if this might be the case when your son starts puberty in a couple of years.
I believe the thefts are cries for attention - it's lucky that it's been caught this early, and that the offenses are relatively minor in scope. You might want to have a "10-year-old"'s point of view discussion about choices and consequences.
Is there any update with your son? Hope all is well.
Specialmom is correct, there is no known link to having adhd and what your wife did.
You also need to recognize that the adhd meds have a very specific time frame. They may not be lasting long enough for your child. Let me know what he is taking and I can tell you how long they should last if he is appropriately dosed. But, this is important, a psyc always starts with a low dose and waits for parents to tell him how it is going. Make sure you communicate to him what is going on!
I have lots of resources on working with adhd kids. This is a good starting point. Stay in touch
Hi. Oh, please do not let your wife or you beat yourselves up. There isn't a known cause of adhd. My son has sensory integration disorder which is like adhd (they are both neurological and can look similar, some kids have both) and I have things I wonder . . . did *I* cause this? They don't know exactly what causes it and we're all doing the best we can.
Impulsive behavior is an issue with many ADHD kids. Also with sensory kids like my son. However, my son responds to firm rules. No touching other people's things did work for my son to keep his hands off. I know you are trying to be nice, but firm rules with consequences that are reasonable help. Praise anything good he does as well so he likes that. I will tell you that I had a friend's son who was always considered adhd turn out to be on the autistic spectrum when they took him to our local Children's Hospital for a full psych evaluation. He was a freshman in high school and had started a fire in the bathroom. Ya, it got that bad. Since getting the correct treatment through the children's hospital, he's on track. I'm not saying that is what is going on with your son but that you should do a FULL psychiatric evaluation to determine the best things to support him. We have Children's Hospitals in the US. Do they have that where you are?
What type of medication is he taking, what dose and for how long has he been on it?