aggressive behavior

[looloo1122]

There is this boy (age 10) in our neighborhood that  is rather quite aggressive with his friends (he is into wrestling). The other day, for the second time, he  urinated on a neighbors floor. He just stood there and did it, no attempt to go to the bathroom. The week before he killed a bird. We are afraid he is going to really hurt someone soon. He comes from a rather bumpy upbringing, his mother is an alcoholic, his father a drug addict. He lives with his father and grandparents. He hardly gets any discipline and is yelled at all the time. He has been in trouble in school many times. I believe he has some anger issues and I am scared for the boy and his family. Please help.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Probably the singlwe most important variable in whether or not children develop in a stable fashion is a secure home environment and at least adequate parenting. When such stability is not available, the child's personality is damaged, and selfish, impulsive, pleasure-seeking and aggrerssive behavior almost always ensues. Your description indicates that this little boy's development is adversely influenced because of the inadequacies of his parents. This situation will only worsen without intervention. By all means approach his parents. They and this boy need help, and the help might involve the boy's removal from this home. If necessary, involve the local child protection agency.

[mperry1369]

I think the boy should get out of the enviroment he's in. if you could take him in. and show him a better life and show him the love that he needs he might just turn around. I have a 16 yr old niece that now lives with me because her mother is an alcholic and her step dad is very abusive I finally had it and called the state on my sister now i have her and she is  doing so much better. I would help him before it's to late.


mperry1369

[looloo1122]

This boy is actually a cousin of my mine. I would like to approach his father to offer help. You can clearly see that this child is headed for trouble. He is a bully and has no problem hurting other children smaller than him. I feel there is not enough love in his home and feel bad for him. He has tantrums all the time. Other children are scared of him. Thanks in advance, looloo1122