disciplining 2year old twin girls

[mcl1031]

I am so glad to have found this site!! I posted on the 1-5 community and did not get any help!  One twin is VERY strong willed--- bad temper tantrums, time out doesn't seem to work, yells no when asked not to do something, etc.  The second one is more laid back , but is now being influenced by the other. They are in a private home for daycare which probably doesn't help. The mom is so frustrated that they get away with more than they should.  I would like to get some suggestions from those of you who have experienced a similar situation.  What may work???

[Limonada]

Glad you're getting help you deem "acceptable".

Good luck with the babysitting next week.

[jdtm]

A dear friend of mine has twin granddaughters.  They sound similar to yours - except these girls are now 10 years old.  She found that having only one granddaughter at a time was the best way to get to know each granddaughter as it was chaos when there were two girls to babysit (also a lot more fun).  After all, those of us who are grandmothers are not as young as we used to be.  Is there a possibility that your granddaughters could each spend separate days with you - and the other at another babysitter's place?  Awkward for the parents, I know, but .....

[mcl1031]

Thank you for responding!!!  I agree with your observation, but the situation was pretty much the same before they went to daycare. These are my grandkids and I need to speak with my daughter about this, but I wanted some suggestions to give her.  I will be taking care of them all next week so Mema needs some ideas!  Things were alot different when I raised my kids!!  I'd like to know how people do time out, and what to do when they say no when asked to not do something.  The key is to be consistent, but she needs to follow a successful technique.  Would love to hear from anyone with some suggestions!!!!

[margypops]

As you obviously realise this made harder by someone else taking care of them I think you will have to make sure the caregiver goes by your wishes and you should have communication with her .Perhaps the caregiver gives the 'good' child more attention , have you sat in when she is looking after them if the one with the tantrums feels 'left out' she will be a handful as negative attention is better than none , ..are these the only children she cares for ?  how many hours are they away from you ,? maybe others here have more suggestions