I have some questions about my daughter's social development. I've been reading things online but am not really getting anywhere.
My 3 year old (4 next week) is extremely shy. If we go to a park or playground where there are other children, she will not play. As soon as they leave, however, she will play. She is not shy around me, her dad or brothers and sister, and certain other close family members. Anyone else, though, she will not talk to. I just have to explain to people that she is very shy, because I'm afraid they think something is wrong with her. This past week, on Thanksgiving, we spent the evening with my dad's family. It is a big, noisy family, and there were other young children there. She would not play at all, and insisted on staying right by my side the whole time. She is very clingy, particularly with me. I'm a stay at home mom so she is with me most of the time.
At home she is far from shy. She is affectionate and speaks a lot. I'm not really concerned about Autism because of these reasons. She has no problem making eye contact with people she is comfortable with. She does have a few of the Autism symptoms, such as sensitivity to noises (she is petrified of public toilets) and lining things up. When we go to my in-laws', she goes immediately to the toy cars and lines them from the bedroom to the dining room. She will not play with them, and gets upset if someone messes them up. We also have some behavioral problems, although they are minor. When she gets upset about something, it's not uncommon for her to kick, stomp or throw things. We also are having a terrible time potty training her. She'll do good for a day or two, then want nothing to do with it.
She had some developmental delays when she was born and received OT and PT until she was about 18 months old. She also was fed through a feeding tube until around that time because of aspiration. She had a seizure when she was a day old, but numerous tests were ran and nothing significant was found to have caused it.
She is a very intelligent child. She is already learning Spanish by watching Dora! She has some issues with her speech that we are going to talk to her doctor about. She does not enunciate her words well.
I know this is a lot, and I'm sorry if it seemed like I was rambling and it was in no particular order.
I guess I just wanted to get some advice or feedback from others who may have gone through the same thing(s).