goin crazy!!!!

[katndaniel]

im a new step mom and my step daughter is out of control.shes six and ive tried everything. weve been living together for 2months now and i havent yelled at her i try to simply punish her by taking away tv and cookies at night time but it doesnt seem to work. she does not listen when i tell her to put her things away in her room instead she cries hysterically and sometimes screams. shes also has a habit of running away. this past week i started yelling at her that does not work either. the next step is spanking her and i really dont want to. does hitting your child really work?


This discussion is related to 6 Year Old With No Disipline.

[babygirl6152]

ahhhh psychology and bible interpretations/ I wouldn't touch that with a 1000 foot pole

She does need to be obey you step mom and she does need to respect you- if that's with a swift/just spanking then Dr. Dobson stands behind your husband. But it has to be unemotional, not out of frustration, and out of LOVE- swift and just- but they should be few and far between---- and dad has to be on exactly the same page- is he wishy washy at all? If he is- you all have some ground work to set first between you two

So if she breaks one of those rules- not forgetfulness or mopey or disgruntled- but OUTRIGHT DEFIANCE AND LACK OF RESPECT
let dad discipline her for now- he should gently show her that in his absence he trusts you to discipline her/ my husband can look at a child and mean business, never raise his voice, curse, or touch them- but he demands respect, and he always gets it.
Discipline with dignity- remember she is a child and you have to stay unemotional- if she has to be punished by either of you- do it matter of fact- because you CARE

[babycomingsoon]

It's doesn't mean beat the child and this is what the bible say not me and to bring another child in the world is not sad .If you don't know someone situation please keep your  comments to yourself.And also I was trying to give a point to help someone else out that is going thru the same thing.And for  me to wish her on no one that is a good thing meaning I don't want  anyone going thru what I am going thru.Ask questions before jumping to conclusion!!!   no hard feelings  be blessed

[RockRose]

baby, the rod used in that passage is actually a shepherd's guiding hook.  Spare the hook,  lose the lamb,  literally translated.    Has nothing to do with beating.   I don't understand,  if you're living in a house with a child you wouldn't wish on anyone,  you're bringing another child into the family.  Sad.

I agree with Margy.  There are ways to make cleaning up a positive - and sometimes younger kids really can't organize the task.  It seems overwhelming.    And giving her some time to do it - "You don't have to do it right this minute,  but before dinner".  

"Everybody pick up for 5 minutes" is a good method - and you begin picking up other things or dusting,  etc.  Everybody work for 5 minutes.  OR,  you can help her organize her task - first,  take your toys,  then come back and get your sweater and shoes.  Let's make the place sparkle!

[babycomingsoon]

My husband and I have custody of his 7 yr she has been with me since she was 2 .She is a terror that I wish on no one .The bible says if you spare the rod you spoil the child.You don't have to hit her for everything but look at it like this.You are the new woman in dads life and you just have stepped in on her territory so now that's not a good thing for her.So you have to let her know that hey we both can share a spot in his life.When you tell her things let her know that you mean it and also dad needs to let her know that she needs to do what you have told her to do.When she sees that dad is backing you and that she can't do anything to irritate you she will change .Don't let this child break you down let her know that you are the woman of the house and she is not.Also she needs to stay her place.Blessings and Peace unto you!!!
I'll will keep you all lifted in prayer

[margypops]

It may be a good idea to give yourstep daughter time to do it , dont react if she doesnt do it as quickly as you would like. Say to her "its almost dinnror/ bed time  time can you pick up your toys in 30 minutes and then we will eat,/or go to bed ,  As she hasnt been with you long you could win over her cooperation with kindness and not react to some things ,focus on the positive side of her behavior.Give her plenty of attention and get her Dad involved ,Games and outside activities.Relax and have some fun .When she is happy you will find life quieter.and more pleasant when you are together .

[Jessie12]

I am a step mom but my children are much younger than yours. We spank in our home when something major happens.  If you dont want to do spankings, my mother use to make my brother, after she had asked him many times to pick things up, throw it away.  I tried this by just making him put it in a clean trash bag and he was so upset about throwing his toys away he started cleaning up without me having to say anything.  I didnt really throw it away, just kept it put up for a week or so until he forgot about it.  

[91004]

Where is her dad I think maybe he needs to step in if he's not already. I wouldn't whip the child if she has never been before shes just going to recent you for it