Thanks for taking the trouble to answer my question. I hope the behaviour is related to the frustrations of being a toddler, rather than a pervasive development disorder. This had crossed my mind too, although I have noticed that his language development is very good for his age, despite the fact that he is tongue tied. Also he is very sociable and enjoys being around other children. I am hoping that this is a good sign. The system in the U.K. would make it very difficult to get him assessed by a developmental paediatritian - as this would need referal via my G.P. - who feels that at this stage theres nothing to worry about. This is quite frustrating as in my work I frequently come across children with obvious developmental problems who are not diagnosed until they are three or four and valuable time has been lost.
I will get his hair cut short, distract him from the head banging and try and reduce the triggers (i.e. saying no)so that he is less likely to bang his head. I will try also to ignore him as far as it is safe and practical.
Thanks again for your very frank and helpful response.
Dear Ms. Whicker,
You are correct in observing that, at times, the types of behaviors you describe can be signs of developmentally-based problems. However, it is an optimistic sign that your child seems to be generally developing well.
There are some forms of Pervasive Developmental Disorder in which development seems to progress well during and after the first year or so, and then problems begin to display themselves.
Only time will tell if any such thing is occurring with your child.
The dysmorphic features certainly make him vulnerable to neuro-behavioral or neuro-integrative disorders, so this needs to be watched. What might make sense at this early stage is to have your child examined by a developmental pediatrician or team of developmental clinicians. Hopefully what you are witnessing is his version of learning to cope with the frustrations that can be so hard to manage for a toddler. If so, as he matures and develops, his capacity for managing frustration will improve.
As a specific intervention for now around his pulling and eating his hair, I would suggest you cut his hair so this is not easy to do. This intervention can be helpful in curbing what can turn out to be a habit pattern.