i cant control my 3 yr old!

[mommy515]

Hi  i have a 3yr old daughter well she willl be 3 may 15 and i cant control her she tells me no she wines but she doesnt do that 2 her dad i think she might have adhd but im not sure. when i tell her to do something i have to say it 4or 5 time s so my question is what should i do????

[ninjay]

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[elvis1302]

I'm a mum to a 18month old and probably have all this to come.

I think if i was in your position i would use the naughty step technique. Start by crouching down to the same level as your daughter and tell her what you want her to do.
That way it won't seem as intimidating. If she won't do as you ask give her a warning and say if you don't do what mummy asks next time you'll put her on the naughty step.

When she's finished sitting on the naughty step give her a cuddle and explain to her why she went to the naughty step.  It may take a while for to adapt to this but hopefully it will work.

good luck.

[momlovesson304]

Your daughter is at an age that she's able to comprehend what you tell her but yet her brain needs time to process.  First, make sure that you have her attention when you are giving her directions or instructions.  Second, speak to her in a clear voice where you are not speaking too quickly or are mumbling.  Give her time to register what you are telling her.  If she still doesn't respond.  Tell her a second time maybe in a different way.  If she still doesn't respond, I would do as the dr. suggest.  For crying and temper tantrums, it's best to ignore the behavior.  Children usually throw temper tantrums because they know the parent will give in (believe me, I know :>).  I went through similar situations with my son.  But when I took my time to speak to him and gave him time to process, our lives improved greatly.  Furthermore, I stopped giving into the temper tantrums, ignored them, and used time out or loss of privilege.  Our lives are 99% better by using these techniques.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

The first thing you should do is refrain from telling her things three and four times. That is only serving to encourage her not to take you seriously. Limit your directions to two times, and if she does not comply after the second direction place her in time out. You can find a sure-fire, straightforward guide to limit setting and discipline in Lynn Clark's book SOS Help for Parents. My guess is that you'll be very satisfied if you adhere to its guidelines.