The good newd is that this response will likely change in the near future. Sometimes, for subtle reasons, one or the other parent does not convey comfort to a child - it is an instinctive response. I am assuming this is what is occurring. I recall an infant who, when he was in distress, was quickly comforted by his father, but simply would not settle with his mother. There was no overt reason for this, as I witnessed both parents hold him, attend affectionately to him, etc., and yet achieve very different results. When this is the case, almost always by the time children turn two they do not show such a response.
thank you for the responce. My husband and I are trying that now and its working, somewhat lol. He needs to learn to go back to sleep on his own, I understand that, the BIG problem is, he is cry every time he sees me. If i leave the house and he is home with my husband, he doesnt cry once, he plays and has a great time. Once he sees me he starts the whining which leads to uncontrolable hysterics. He actually got sick a few time from being so worked up. This is very difficult to handle.
I can only speculate about this without a few more details. Is it simply your presence that precipitates your son's crying? Or is a matter of his not responding well to your efforts to comfort him when he is in some type of distress? At night, it may be worthwhile to stop going in to your son - it will be hard for him to stop this pattern if your husband goes to him every time he cries when he wakes up during the night. You rson does not 'learn' the skill to comfort himself and to fall back asleep on his own.