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kindergartener acting out
I have a five year old boy. He is a young five for kindergarten with a MAY birthday.
He had a rough start to the kindergarten year, but after a few weeks, did better and this continued on until right before the holidays. Now things have really started to deteriorate. He is acting out everyday adn the last two days they ahve called me and asked me to come and get him and bring him home. He has been running out of the class and supposedly trying to leave the school. He spends a lot of time in the principal's office and he actually likes the principal. The school is setting up a behavioral specialist to come in on Tuesday and evaluate him and come up with a plan.
I am also having him see a therapist and she says he might have ADHD.
His behaviour at home and w/the sitter has been good lately and he does what he is told, he still has his moments, but not like the school. He says he hates his teacher. He is in karate and listens there.
In the last year he has gone through a divorce, his father is in jail and not available of course, moved to a new home, and started kindergarten and been with multiple childcare providers while I work.
I am at my wit's end trying to figure out what is going on.
I think he might be stressed, he has chewed holes in some shirts and he does not do that at home.
Today, apparently he had gas and a student told the teacher and she thought he pooped in his pants and he went to the office and then my babysitter had to pick him up early. His pants were clean.
I just worry that things will nto get better . I wonder if changing classrooms would help.
I don't think he's learning like he should either, reading is really hard for him. I volunteered and noticed a lot of kids were struggling
The teacher is in her late 50s, early 60s and this is her first time to teach kindergarten.
He had a rough start to the kindergarten year, but after a few weeks, did better and this continued on until right before the holidays. Now things have really started to deteriorate. He is acting out everyday adn the last two days they ahve called me and asked me to come and get him and bring him home. He has been running out of the class and supposedly trying to leave the school. He spends a lot of time in the principal's office and he actually likes the principal. The school is setting up a behavioral specialist to come in on Tuesday and evaluate him and come up with a plan.
I am also having him see a therapist and she says he might have ADHD.
His behaviour at home and w/the sitter has been good lately and he does what he is told, he still has his moments, but not like the school. He says he hates his teacher. He is in karate and listens there.
In the last year he has gone through a divorce, his father is in jail and not available of course, moved to a new home, and started kindergarten and been with multiple childcare providers while I work.
I am at my wit's end trying to figure out what is going on.
I think he might be stressed, he has chewed holes in some shirts and he does not do that at home.
Today, apparently he had gas and a student told the teacher and she thought he pooped in his pants and he went to the office and then my babysitter had to pick him up early. His pants were clean.
I just worry that things will nto get better . I wonder if changing classrooms would help.
I don't think he's learning like he should either, reading is really hard for him. I volunteered and noticed a lot of kids were struggling
The teacher is in her late 50s, early 60s and this is her first time to teach kindergarten.
You are so lucky that the school your son attends is actually bringing in resources. My son is getting nothing...he is getting swept under the rug.
I know your sad for your son but ATLEAST he is getting help. I wish my son could get some help.
I know your sad for your son but ATLEAST he is getting help. I wish my son could get some help.
lastest update, he grabbed the handle to teh fire extinguiser case and it broke the class. He said he wanted to see what was inside. He has promised not to do it again. Now they are hiring someone to be with him one on one everyday. I hope this will help.
I'm at a loss. Is there more than sensory and is becomign very deviant?? I'm just so worried about him.
I'm at a loss. Is there more than sensory and is becomign very deviant?? I'm just so worried about him.
I went ot the psychologist thru my insurance. A behavioral specialist has been called in from the school (district). this lady goes from one school tot he next where there are problems and tries to work on things. TOday he had a sub, he did have to go to the office but it was for a bloody nose. I think he had an okay day, no major events. I wonder if not having the regular teacher there helped.
I went to see my therapist and she said me and him we've bene thru an incredible amt of stress. The divorce went thru in Aug 09. HIs dad moved out in NOv 08. In Nov 09, we had to help move his dad out of his apt when he was in jail and his lease was expiring, I will not do that again. His family should be more helpful. IN Dec. 09, Dad got out of jail and saw Benji a few times before ending back in jail. Dad is alcoholic and keeps drinking while on probation. So it's been one thing after another. My family lives far away about 1400 miles away. I am thinking at this point of moving closer to family when this school year ends. Still thinking.
The therapist was concenred that last week he emptied out a pencil can and put the can on his hand and hit other students with it. I am concerned too. I just hate to think he might have MAJOR issues.
I went to see my therapist and she said me and him we've bene thru an incredible amt of stress. The divorce went thru in Aug 09. HIs dad moved out in NOv 08. In Nov 09, we had to help move his dad out of his apt when he was in jail and his lease was expiring, I will not do that again. His family should be more helpful. IN Dec. 09, Dad got out of jail and saw Benji a few times before ending back in jail. Dad is alcoholic and keeps drinking while on probation. So it's been one thing after another. My family lives far away about 1400 miles away. I am thinking at this point of moving closer to family when this school year ends. Still thinking.
The therapist was concenred that last week he emptied out a pencil can and put the can on his hand and hit other students with it. I am concerned too. I just hate to think he might have MAJOR issues.
Benjimom my son is similar to yours...requiring a lot of one on one attention...however he responds beautifully to a teacher/aide working with him. He actually needs absolutely no help...he just wants someone next to him...or needs someone next to him to remind him to stay on task. Literally...you could sit next to him and just say..."stay focused, move to the next step, keep going" this is all it takes. Absolutely no instruction/help regarding the work is needed. However, when it comes to reading/writing my son does display the frustration you describe with your son. He will make a face..want to give up..get distracted.
Benjimom how did you get so much help....I here you talking about psychologists and behavioral specialist....your so lucky you have these options for your son.
Benjimom how did you get so much help....I here you talking about psychologists and behavioral specialist....your so lucky you have these options for your son.
the teacher says she sits by him in class but he will not always cooperate with her.
If anxiety is the issue, this is probably the wrong thing to do. Ask him where he would like to sit - kids usually know - often a corner with the walls serving as "protection" on two sides or near the door serving as an "escape". Anyway, he'll probably have an answer for you ...
If anxiety is the issue, this is probably the wrong thing to do. Ask him where he would like to sit - kids usually know - often a corner with the walls serving as "protection" on two sides or near the door serving as an "escape". Anyway, he'll probably have an answer for you ...
Hi,
Thanks JDTM,
I appreciate yours and everyone's advice. I've learned so much from all of you.
Tomorrow a behavioral specialist is coming to observe my son and see if she can come up with a plan for him. I hope this helps. I am so scared he has a SEVERE problem. I don't know if this is purposeful or somthing he cannot control. the teacher says she sits by him in class but he will not always cooperate with her.
Did your child sometimes not cooperate with teh teachers and assistants? They view him as defiant to authority.
I am just so nervous, I will keep all of you posted on anything I hear and keep the thread going, I'm learning so much from ALL of you. So many ideas.
Thanks JDTM,
I appreciate yours and everyone's advice. I've learned so much from all of you.
Tomorrow a behavioral specialist is coming to observe my son and see if she can come up with a plan for him. I hope this helps. I am so scared he has a SEVERE problem. I don't know if this is purposeful or somthing he cannot control. the teacher says she sits by him in class but he will not always cooperate with her.
Did your child sometimes not cooperate with teh teachers and assistants? They view him as defiant to authority.
I am just so nervous, I will keep all of you posted on anything I hear and keep the thread going, I'm learning so much from ALL of you. So many ideas.
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