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lazy 6 yr old pooping himself.

ok heres my problem, my son is 6 yrs old and has constipation problems and is on miralax n occasionaly fletchers, i have given him  enemas few times over the years as recommended by gastro dr.  he still poopes on himself  especially when backed up,but dont really matter if he is or isnt, he also holds it alllll the time which is 1 reason why he gets backed up. he pees too on himself a little as well. i tried everything from punishing him by making him wash his underwears,taking toys n games away,time outs,yelling, not yelling, rewarding when he did do good ,everything you can imagine. so tell me why is he so lazy,??? when i punish him it dont bother him. i dont want him to be a 10yr. and still pooping n the way he is going seems like he is.in school he had 1 accident n thats it. he will clearly tell me he dont want to go and thats why he has accident. so how do i get him to gooooooooo and stop being lazy.???? please help. i need real help.
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I have heard this issues can be linked to controll issues.  He might be doing this because he wants to have control and be the boss of his own body.  Try to relax and just love him.  I think he should get checked out my a mental health clinic if possible.  He could have a medical issue that makes it more difficult.  
knew some one who went pee, and would wet himself because he was too lazy to go to the restroom.  It took another kid telling him it was gross for him to stop.  His mother had tried everything.
knew a girl who had been abused at the age of 6 and was too afraid to ask the teacher to go.  She had many accidents.
I guess what I am saying is to relax, love him, and do what you can.  If you start feeling angry with him, back off.  Good luck.  
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It is time for you to seek some help and support by arranging to have him evaluated by a mental health clinician. His problem is not due to laziness - if you frame it that way you are going to adopt a punitive approach, and that will not be useful. It's important that you maintain your equanimity and not be responding in an emotional way to this.
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You should tell him that he's gonna start stinking and that his friends are gonna start talking about him.
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