my 7 yr old son wont poo on the toilet

[clm83]

My seven year old son will rarely sit on the toilet to have a poo, he holds it in and says he doesnt like going on the toilet. He dirties his pants a few times a day and his bottom is constantly dirty and smelly however even after talking to him about it he isnt bothered by it. He eats well and drinks lots of water and we have tried laxatives from the doctor and they dont make a difference. When he does go to the toilet,which varies from 1 to 3 times a week, it is huge and often blocks the toilet. It is getting me and my partner down and we really dont know what to do anymore, please could you offer any advice.

[Ariesqueen7]

You are not alone. I have a child that is 7 going to be 8 with the same problems. I cut juices by 3 pm and water by 6 pm bed time is  830pm otherwise he will pee the bed. Als0 the doctor recommended more fiber in his diet (to make smaller poops). I also let him use the tablet for up to 15 minutes on the toilet as a reward first thing in the morning and right before bed. Seems he is more relaxed so he has less accidents than if I don't do it at all. he says the poop hurts so that's why he refusing to go. We will see what happens. Also make him/her clean there underwear. Make them responsible and I also started a reward chart. Seeing if that changes at all

[Sandman2]

If his poops hurt, then he probably is constipated.  Reward charts won't help with that as it is more of a medical condition.   Withholding water after 8:30 is ok, but fluids during the day are important.  Fibre at breakfast time is important.   There is a over the counter stool softener pill that has very few side effects (if any), you might want to try.  Good luck.

[margypops]

When you say he eats well what does he eat plenty of bulk and roughage will help as he does sound constipated ,how about a good bowl of cereal in the morning ,maybe  a banana Yoghort..hopefully get green veggies down him but okay kids dont always like them , so peas, beans whole wheat bread ,.Many children dont wipe well and it can be annoying, if you find yourself getting on his case back off a bit as it can make it worse many children hold it in ' from anxiety , let him be in control of his body , less words about it .Good luck