I have always had a good relationship with my 21yr old son. About 4 months ago his personality changed from being the responsible,reliable,hardworking child to an angry,resentful young man. He hardly speaks to anyone, prefering to stay in his room until the next morning.
He studied IT away from home for 2 yrs, coming home at the beginning of the year. He has a responsible employment and works long hours doing more than is expected from him. His colleages hold him in awe,because he is knowlegeable & mature for his age.They admire & say what a wonderful young man he is. But at home with his family it is a totally different story. My 16yr old daughter is too scared to ask him any thing lest, he shouts at her.My car ,which he drives until he can afford his own , has actually been taken over by him.I have to ask to be picked up from work ,go to the shops at the risk of a tongue lashing. He also has a business after hours which keeps him busy on the internet after work.
It seems as if he is driven by achieving so much in a short time - before he is 22 he wants to own a house,car & be as far away from his family as possible.( which he has verbalised)
He is totally anti-drug & smoking, drinks beer when he meets his friends.My husband & I are hurt by his attitude & unwillingness to communicate with us. It feels like we did not do our best financially or otherwise. My husband says he should leave the house on our terms, if he wants to so badly or pay rent which he has not done this year. How do we handle our son, that does not respect us & treats us as if we gave him the worst childhood ever ?