please help

[toshort24]

i just caught my 5 yr old son laying down and my 2 yr old daughter having sex i am so sick to my stomach i need to kinow if this is normal

[louieforlaughs]

i hope toshort24 comes back and sees your suggestion.

[mcclure223]

Yes counseling specific to sexual abuse n age appropriate but also contacting police if u suspect abuse to make sure it ends immediately

[louieforlaughs]

so what you are saying mcclure is that if they haven't seen their parents or seen something on t.v. to be concerned because they may have been abused, right? and that the abuse needs to be addressed and corrected in its own way. i absolutely agree with that. its two different situations with two different solutions.
would you suggest counselling if that were the case?

[mcclure223]

Good advice but question I would ask myself...have they seen u have sex...what do u mean by sex n if they haven't seen it, u have a big problem n need to address this different way. Kids mimic what they see or what someone has done to them? I deal w sex abuse more than I want so this really depends.

[louieforlaughs]

Thanks! Happy to hear that! ; )

[neen8699]

good suggestion

[louieforlaughs]

hi there,
since no one else has said anything in ten hours i figure i'll give answering a shot.
it is normal for children to be curious about their genitals and to explore themselves.
perhaps they have seen you having sex and are 'acting' it out together.
i would suggest talking to the children about how that is inappropriate to do. tell them about private parts and how if they are curious they should look at them in private, alone.
they don't know they did anything wrong so try to move on and not dwell on it too much. just try to educate them about it. it feels good so they touch themselves and they shouldn't feel shamed for it. but they should know its a private (separate) thing (until they get older and get married of course)
hope thatt helps a bit.