sad 7 year old

[fenner224]

My seven year old daughter is so horrible to me and to her twin brother and older sister. She is good at school , but very head strong and even the teachers say she takes over the class sometimes. But im at my witts end with her as soon as i no she is coming home i know the tamtums and screaming is going to start. i repeat myself time and time again asking her to do or not do something, but unless its what she wants nothing will happen. i feel so sad and feel she cant be happy acting this way, and im getting more and more down in myself. I ask her why she behaves like it and she just says she doent know but gets upset, usually after we have really fallen out. its like she likes to upset me , but i just want to help her, but dont no who to ask as i feel im failing her. Any help will really be great.

[allmymarbles]

Who is the mama and who is the baby? Your roles are reversed. Think about this and you will come up with answers.

[skepticalpeach]

It sounds like you guys are stuck in a vicious cycle. Since you are the adult you are responsible for stopping the cycle. Start with your attitude before you daughter comes home from school. Instead of dreading it and thinking about how horrible it's going to be, try thinking positive. Come up with ideas to resolve each conflict in a good, calm way. Call and talk to someone about it if you need to. When your daughter starts yelling and fighting, just walk away. Ignore it and say I will discuss this with you when you are calm. If you never lose your cool anymore she will catch on that she can't rile you up anymore. She'll start to respect you more. Good luck.

[margypops]

How does the older sister and her brother behave towards her , is it only the one child who behaves in this manner?Sometimes in a family there is often one singled out and in fact sometimes that child has been teased or brought to the point of a tantrum by the others .Just something to keep an eye on .What would be a trigger for a tantrum?