screaming 1 year old daughter

[Emanelshreef]

My 1 year old daughter is screaming and crying almost all the time,, once she needed something or i said no on something she wanned she starts to scream till her voice fades away,he screams even if i left her and went to the bathroom for minutes...she sometimes throws herself to the ground and most of the time i know she is acting and there is no physical reason ... she stays up at night for 2 and 3 am and mostly doesn't have long sleeping hours and my doctor says she is okay.. i really neesd help and need to know how to deal with her anger plz !

[allmymarbles]

Not cold, Sandman. Cool. The baby was overheated from its exertions. It calmed her, which is what she needed.

[Sandman2]

    You also might want to check out my post here -http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Child-Behavior/Why-does-my-kid-freak-out-not-a-question--but-reasons/show/1907624      ; -
    so you have an understanding why she is doing what she is doing.
    And good ideas by the above posters, although the cold water head bath leaves me a bit cold.

[AnnieBrooke]

I am thinking sleep, too.  Try putting her to bed much, much earlier than you usually do.  Like, if you happen to put her to bed at 8 pm, try 5:30 pm -- something that much earlier.  Babies and kids who are sleep-deprived can act exactly like you are describing, hyper fussy and almost out of control.  As allmy says, apnea is not a fanciful suggestion at this age (in other words, it's not just limited to snoring middle-aged men).  Any time I don't give my son his allergy meds, he goes through apnea ... long pauses in breathing at night, and then gaspingly waking up and breathing through his mouth, then back to the stuffy nose and long pauses in breaths again.  Not conducive to getting his rest, for sure!  He is a sunny-tempered kid when he is not tired, and much tougher to manage when he is.  And the thing is, he doesn't act "tired," he just acts hyper, wiggly, angry, and I can't find the right words or actions to calm him.  That is when I know he is not getting enough sleep in general.  Maybe something like this is happening for your child.

[allmymarbles]

Does she get enough sleep? Has she been checked for sleep apnea? (If she sleeps with her mouth open and sounds snuffly this may be indicative.) Babies can scream themselves into exhaustion. Although I never had your severe problem, one of my little ones would have a yelling/crying jag every afternoon. A neighbor suggested I bathe her head in cool water. So I took her to the sink and did as she suggested. My baby stopped crying, breathed a sigh of relief and fell asleep. It always worked.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and sorry your going through this. If your doctor says shes ok and you suspect something maybe best to get a second opinion as doctors can be wrong. You might need to see a childrens doctor specialist in behavior.

In my experience with this, it starts off slow in the childs behavior and gets worth because the child gets results and at a minimum a reaction from you.
When a child is young and cant speak they make noises as the noises are the only option available to communicate for them. The first time she did this you reacted as wanted to please her. She saw this reaction behavior in you and little by little the screaming became more., it became more for 2 reasons. The first was to get you upset, if she could not get her way she wanted you not to get your way, which was no screaming and the second was to try to get her way by screaming. She was aware that you were getting upset and realized she had some power over you.

It told time to build this behavior and will take time to control it. You might start by not reacting to her and giving her a "time out" in her room till she calms down. Whats important is that you get her to realize that her screaming does not bother you, no reaction=no screaming. also you can start explaining to her why you say no to her requests as sometimes understanding brings acceptance. But bottom line, you must take control of her and not have her controling you as she is doing now.
best of luck