Remember that she is in a time of transition between infant-type eating and toddler-type eating. One of the things children learn at this age is to feed themselves, and now you can be having her beign to use utensils to eat. You are right to think that her habits now are associated with her learning to eat on her own. Whole milk, by the way, is a good thing for her, but cotinue to expose her to new food items.
Yes, it's normal. Ignore the reaction and carry on with whatever you are doing. Paying it any attention will only serve to reinforce it.
thank you for imput i will continue with the way i am doing things see what happens
she also refuses to eat alot,she is 24 pounds,but still loves her milk i have restricted it in the day,but she still dont eat alot she is in the process of trying to feed herself so it could be that