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[volume]

I wonder if i am making this things up just ot explain the state i am in.Like i hypnotized and someone is telling me you wiil feel bad

[Ted A Grossbart, Ph.D.]

I think the key is to find someone who is a good therapist first and then adds hypnosis training to their resources.  The Society for Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis and American Society of Hypnosis are two good groups that have web sites with referral lists.

Sometimes causes are knowable and useful, other times not.   You need to be sure this concern does not get in the way of getting the help you need.

tg

[volume]

What sort or therapy or treatment would you reccomend?I would like to go to a hypnotherapist because just talking with a therapist just doesn't lift the weight of my shoulders.
2.Do i really need to find the underlying cause,because i am pretty scared and anxious ,guilty,about the underlying cause?

[Ted A Grossbart, Ph.D.]

I would as usual second Jaquta's comments.

I think your asking about feeling hypnotized is important.  One of the standard reactions to abuse is dissociation which can be a sort of negative hypnosis.  If someone in power tell someone in a frightened vulnerable state that they are a bad person (or whatever) and state or imply that they should be miserable, this can have the power of an hypnotic suggestion.

This is all very real--you are not making it up.  Combined with anxiety and depression it can make anyone miserable.

But as I have said each time we chat,  this is way beyond something a forum can fix.  Stop fretting over diagnoses and definitions and get serious help.  Don't use telling yourself it is not real, or it is so special it is beyond treatment, or one or another diagnosis does not fit some aspect of the problems, or some of it started before the abuse, or whatever, or it is hard to tell a therapist the real story, or anything else as a reason to not get the help you need.

tg

[Jaquta]

Hi Volume.
I very much doubt you're making this up.  This is how we feel when stuff from our past catches up with us.  A lot of the time we don't even see that it is earlier stuff that is affecting us now.  After spending some time in therapy we do start to see and link up little parts of it.  In time we learn that our past experiences play a huge part in who we are today.
I think some of what you describe is based on anxiety.  When we get extremely stressed or anxious we can feel a little spaced out, etc.  Once we learn better ways to cope or to manage our stress or to relax even it starts to get better.
One last thing.  When we struggle to explain or put words to our experiences, etc it often indicates that some very strong emotions have been triggered.  Some therapists refer to this a being pre-verbal.  Much like a baby is not able to put into words what it needs or wants, etc.

Trust what you're thinking and feeling.  There are often logical explanations.  Don't doubt yourself and believe stuff is wrong with you which isn't.
Our behavior, thoughts and feelings are all legitimate or understandable based on our experiences.

I hope that helps a little.  

Take care.
J