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1299272 tn?1312476830

What should I do to get over my insecurities?

I am a 15 year old girl. I'm a little insecure about the shape of my nose and my nostrils just because it doesn't look a certain way. My insecurity about my nose has always came to me after a while. It used to be about what it looked like on the side of my face and now I'm completely fine with the way it looks because people and my friends would tell me it was fine and that I'm beautiful... but the weird thing about me is no matter what anyone says or thinks, I'm always insecure about it. I can't get it off my mind. People may tell me that there's nothing wrong with my nose at all but still... I'm so critical, so obsessive. Every time I look in the mirror I don't necessarily feel good about myself. Especially when I look at my nostrils and at some angles, I think my nose looks weird. My nostrils are small at the bottom and at the tip/point of my nose they get a little wider. They're small, but I feel like it makes everything else look a little uneven. My friends think I'm beautiful. That's hard for me to believe. I feel like they're just saying that because they're my friends and they probably are. My family says my nose isn't weird but then again they're my family, it's not like they're going to say "yeah, you do have a weird nose", I'm just so weird and I ponder on this all the time. I ponder on the littlest things and they become more of a problem I just don't know how to get over this. I try to tell myself I'm beautiful, I try to look at my face and say that I look okay but in the back of my head there's that little insecurity nipping at me. I always find one negative thing after another. I used to actually like myself. But when I actually look at my nose I don't even like it. I sometimes wish I had my mom's face and I like my grandmother's face too. To me, they have perfect, beautiful faces and I just love their appearance. I wouldn't want to get a nose job. Reasons are they're expensive, they don't always turn out vey nice, and I would feel fake to have my nose done. So. I try to accept my features. I think my nose is my biggest flaw but to everyone else they think it looks okay. If they were to look in the mirror everyday and actually look at my nose by itself then maybe they would see why I'm so weak about my appearance. I don't know how some people think it's "cute" because it's not. I may have a small nose and it may be better than a big nose with wide nostrils but I sometimes wish my nostrils could be just a little wider and shaped a little differently. I love my mom's nose. I wish I had it but it wouldn't exactly suit my face. Ugh... it's just so frustrating. I can't get that insecurity out of my head, it never goes away and it just bothers me. It's all I think about most of the time. I think I'm just a lunatic. An obsessive lunatic. I don't know how to get over my insecurities I wish I could just like it. Just like it and get over it but I'll still be insecure about it no matter what. I'm jealous of my family member's noses, I'm jealous when I look at a model. No matter what, I'm always insecure. All the time. Everyday I'll wake up in the morning feeling partially depressed because I wish I had a beautiful nose. How do I get over this insecurity and prevent those negative thought from popping up in my head? I still get that bad feeling if I say I look good.
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It takes time to fully accept your body, as we all have insecurities. Focus more on what you like about your body and try telling yourself one thing you like about your body every morning when you get ready for the day. Slowly you'll start to see more positives than focusing on the negatives. It's about training your mind to see the good you have...
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1299272 tn?1312476830
Gee, thanks heh heh :)
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Briaa, I enlarged your picture and must say your nose looks fine! but have you noticed you
you have BEAUTIFUL eyes??
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1547807 tn?1293779808
I looked at your profile pic and your nose looks fine. it doesnt look bad at all. your a beautiful young lady and u need to believe ur friends and family because they are telling you the truth.
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1530342 tn?1405016490
Hi Briaa:-) All  I can tell you is that your are a beautiful healthy young girl. I looked at your profile pic up close and like many people have told you, your nose is fine just the way it is. I think it's more mind over matter.
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