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Stressed Crohn's wife

I am a stressed out wife of husband with Crohn's.  We have 3 small children and my husband has been hospitalized 8 times in 7 months.  My husband has been through this before and I am very well informed on the disease and feel as though I do everything in my power to help him anyway that I can.  My problem is not so much the Crohn's but everyone else.  I am expected to take care of everything and inform everyone of every little thing that goes on.  We found out that he is getting another surgery with 3 days notice and on top of everything else, I have to make sure that all of the family who doesn't care enough to call knows what is going on.  Anyone know how to support husband, take care of kids, and be everthing else to everyone. (I know it's called being a mom)  So many people say "if you need anything, let me know"  Some mean it and they are already there.  Then others you actually call to ask a favor and they can't be bothered.  These same people are the ones who have to be called during every step.  I am a very supportive wife and mother who can not take the stress that others are putting on me.  Everyone doesn't seem to understand my husband is sick all of the time.  They don't seem to understand that my children are watching these ups and downs on a daily basis. Yet I am always getting phone calls on why I didn't call to say he wasn't feeling well or why I didn't do this or that.   Anyone have any suggestions on how to handle all of this?  There isn't alot of support for spouses and children of people with Crohn's.
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479561 tn?1208140508
Well I guess it wont met me post my email....lets try again! A different way,..... tmarland04 @ yahoo . com
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479561 tn?1208140508
I am also a mother to 3 small kids and have a husband with chron's. He was just diagnosed in October and it is scary and stressful. He is currently having a flare up and I don't even have a clue as to what to do. Financially this disease has killed us and emotionally it's not great either. I am here if you need someone to talk to! I could use the support also! My e mail is ***@****. Tina
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177554 tn?1256353793
I'd recommend starting an e-mail list for updates. When you have an update send it in a mass e-mail to EVERYONE who wants to be informed. If they want to, they can write back. If they don't, that doesnt mean they don't care.

Explain to everyone that this is the best way to communicate with everyone since you are very busy supporting your husband and raising your babies. If there are a few close people in the family who really want phone calls, ask them to call the other people who want call updates. People can't expect you to do everything and even if they do, you don't have to agree to be everything. You're number one priority is your husband and children.  Everything else comes after that. I really think e-mail will help. Thats what my family does on my behalf when I am sick.

Good luck!
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