Had sex two days apart one took plan b with help!!!!!

[Jess1126]

So my lmp was April 23... had sex with person A on 5/7 took the plan b three hours later. Had sex with person b 5/9 early morning multiple times he came in me and no plan b. Help me someone this is killing me inside

[AnnieBrooke]

Okay. Then here is what I think might have happened, and of course since your timeline is so tight, you really do have to do a DNA test to know for sure. You can do a noninvasive DNA test prenatally with the DDC or Ravgen for a big cost, or you can do one after the baby comes for about a tenth of the cost. But in the end, you need to do one, after all, these guys are only two days apart.

I think what happened is that you did get pregnant from the sex on the 7th. If the doctor thinks from an early ultrasound that you got pregnant on the 6th, it seems a bit less likely that you got pregnant on the 9th. (Though these are so close together in time, we're not talking a sure bet or anything like it.)

Plan B is only effective 7 times out of 8.  If you conceived and then took it three hours later, it is (I suppose) possible that the embryo floated around a while and didn't get the message that Plan B was in your system. You could call the Plan B people and ask if it is possible to take it too early (and to have it not work for that reason).

I would not tell one guy or the other that he is definitely the dad, I would tell both guys that they both have a pretty even chance of being the dad and we all need to test.  Perhaps guy A has a slightly better chance of being the dad than guy B, but it's like 55% for the one guy and 45% for the other.

When you test, do test with both guys. So many women write on this forum in anguish because they don't believe the one test with one guy that they did. You need one guy to come up "no" and the other guy to come up "yes," each guy's test will back up the results of the other's.

[Jess1126]

Hi Annie thank you so much for your response I genuinely appreciate it. Something else which I find strange is potential father b had the same due date as the baby I'm carrying

[AnnieBrooke]

Potential father B is pregnant?

[AnnieBrooke]

Or do you mean his girlfriend?

Or do you mean that years ago when his mother was pregnant she had a due date of January 27?  

It sounds like you think the same due date means the second guy is the father, but it has nothing to do with anything. There are only 365 choices, after all, and more than 365 babies born every minute. A few of them will inevitably have due dates that coincide.  If every embryo had the same due date as their parent, by that reasoning, your baby should have your due date, and you haven't said it does.

[Jess1126]

Hi Annie so sorry for not being so clear. So yes when I went to doctor on June 13th I told them I didn't know my last period which was false but I wanted them to date my according to he ultrasound . I am positive of my lmp which was 4/23. The ultrasound put my last period at 4/20 according to the doctors and they said this to me. The due date they gave me at ultrasound is 1/27. According to all of the online ovulation trackers that I have looked up it puts conception at 5/6 which would be false because I didn't have intercourse then as it was on 5/7 and 5/9.

[AnnieBrooke]

And, just to belabor a point, you do know that sperm can live 5-6 days, so if you had sex on, say, April 30, it could give you a pregnancy where conception was May 6, right?

[Jess1126]

Oh ok I see what your saying except for I wasn't with anyone on may 6th .it was may 7th and 9th....

[AnnieBrooke]

So, in other words, what the doctor said indicated May 6, and possibly the doctor even said that? but you decided it could not be May 6 because you hadn't had sex in the first week of May at all until May 7.  Is that right?  I am asking because when people write in, they give me a mix of what the doctor actually said, what they determined on their own, what they read on an app, what their friend said, and what they thought might have been implied, and a whole amalgam of stuff, and if the doctor (not the woman writing in) actually said some of that stuff, the doctor's information becomes less trustworthy.  So, please be really clear with me, separate what you know the doctor actually told you from what you thought about it later. I'm trying to figure out if the doctor made a mistake, or if you interpreted what the doctor said and the doctor didn't really say it. It goes to whether the information is trustworthy.

[AnnieBrooke]

How did you get a conception date of May 7 if they told you that your due date was January 27?

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm just trying to figure out where the inconsistency comes from.  If a doctor tells a person she has a due date of January 27 and that she is at 7w3d GA on June 13, the conception date that goes with that information is May 6.  

[Jess1126]

Also  wondering if the plan b pushed back my ovulation a few days...I remember when I slept with potential father b the discharge was a different consistency of when I was actually ovulating

[AnnieBrooke]

When you went in for your ultrasound on June 13 and were told you were 7 weeks 3 days GA, did they give you a January 27 due date?

[Jess1126]

Yes they did.

[Jess1126]

Yes they did.

[Jess1126]

Also I told them that I didn't remember my last period although I did. I wanted to see what gestational age they gave me from no nowledge of my lmp

[Jess1126]

No sexbefore that

[Jess1126]

Sorry kinda been in a fog lately. So my ultrasound was on June 13 they said I was 7 weeks 3 days. The first day of my lmp was April 23 I know that for sure. I don't know how long my cycles typically last. The only reason I remember my last period was because I ran a race that day.

[AnnieBrooke]

What due date did they give you at that time, January 27?

[Jess1126]

Also yes that was the only sex I had

[Jess1126]

I took the ultrasound and the estimated date of conception was 5/7. But when looking around I found it can be up to five days off... I guess I just want to to know to oddds of partner a being the father?

[AnnieBrooke]

You're not giving enough info about the ultrasound for me to tell you odds.

When was the ultrasound?  (I mean, a date on the calendar, like May 31 or June 10.)

What estimated due date did they give you?  Was it from the ultrasound or from the first day of your last period?  

You say "My lmp was on April 23," do you mean the first day of your last period, or the last day of your last period? Are your cycles regular every 28 days?

Did they say your baby's ultrasound measurements coincided exactly with a GA based on the actual first day of your last period?

Did you have sex in the week before May 7 with anyone?

[AnnieBrooke]

Is that all the sex you had around that time? (In other words, could you have already been pregnant before May 7, or could you have gotten pregnant after May 9?)

If you have not yet gotten an ultrasound, when you go see the doctor (and do it soon) ask for one, and don't tell them when your last period was or they will assume you got pregnant exactly two weeks after it (when this might not be true). Just tell them your cycles are irregular, or that you don't know when your last period was.

When you get the ultrasound, ask them for an estimated due date. Don't settle for someone telling you a number of weeks of pregnancy and sending you home, ask what date you are due, from the baby's measurements and markers on the ultrasound (not counted forward from the first day of your last period, which doctors will often do).

Then go home and put the due date into a conception calculator, or just count back manually on a calendar 266 days from the estimated due date you got from the ultrasound. It should point to an estimated conception date.

[AnnieBrooke]

Not saying that an ultrasound will definitely answer your question. But it's the best chance you have at this point other than taking a prenatal DNA test. If it points to the time around May 7-9, this won't help you sort things out, but if it points to a time well before that or after that, it will help you a lot.