Here is what the conception calculator I use says based on a due date of May 11:
Probable date of ovulation: August 19
Possible dates of conception: August 15 to 23
I assume you have also counted back and found that these numbers hold true. So this implies that your problem is that you keep obsessing because you had sex with the other guy, not that you are really worried about the dates?
Worry about who is the father when the dates don't justify the worry is really just general internalized anxiety over your behavior, not a clue that your worries are true.
Please try to relax and trust your tests and your dates.
Thank you kindly for reply. You are right on saying my concern stems from anxiety re the other guy. The dates worry me because morning after pill can throw cycle out of whack , yet the ultrasound dating screen taken at 4, ,6 and 8 week correlate with the May 11 due date so I know I should focus on this. My thoughts also worry at the chance baby is born early, aand will cause me to revisit these anxious moments . can I feel confident with ultrasound date scans? Initially I was fine, now late at night I have these stressful moments of doubt. Sorry to sound ignorant or uneducatd, I'm ftm and have become comfortable with having my ex bf back in my life as our child's daddy. Your advice is greatly appreciated x
The one that you are currently with, sorry!
Hi! Our dates are very close and we're in the same boat so thought id leave a comment just to say you arent alone i know exactly how stressful this is! :( I made my mistake with a close friend on 15th july when me and my bf had been separated for around a month, we ended up getting back together a few days after that. I also took the morning after pill. So then my period arrives on 1st august and i assume everything is fine. Fast forward to 31st August no period, took a test september 5th and it was positive and my friend said to me yanno that last period you had might not have been a real one and it could be the other guys baby so i completely freaked out! Had my first scan 24th September which dated me at 7 weeks 6 days with a due date of may 6th and this puts conception at around 14th August. Logically i can say to myself if this baby really was my friends my due date would have been the start of April not May ( same as yourself, date wise everything seems good for us ) but the guilt i feel at night is terrible :'( I also didnt have any symptoms until the day i took my test eg. tingling nipples, hot flushes and extremely irritated! I think the symptoms would have appeared long before then if it wasnt by bf's although i dunno if thats a good way of determining anything as everyones body is different i suppose. My boyfriend has been amazing through this as he believes he is most likely the dad, i love him very much just wish i could go back in time and not do what i did. His family has no idea this is going on though so they cant wait for babys arrival! I break down in tears everytime i think about maybe having to tell them the baby isnt actually related to them. Sorry for rambling but i hope you have comfort in knowing someone else is going through the same. I pray to god everyday this will work out for me and my bf and ill be prayin for you too! Best of luck! xo
Thank you so much for replies. I love this forum and it is giving me restasurnce until baby arrives.
Lg1195 - wow we are very similar .....id like to stay in touch with you! if bub arrives early will you do a paternity test? I think my mind won't be at rest in this case without scientific proof.