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Pregnant who is the dad
Hello I had my last period on March 26 18 and than I felt symptoms starting April 14 18 I did have sex on April 9 with 2 people I used a condom with one and if I can remember he did nut in me guy with no condom than on the 15 we had sex again and nut with out comdon it says my conceived date would be 09/10/18 and my window as open from 04-05/18- 04-15-18
Freeking, unfortunately none of us can give you an accurate answer. I'm sorry, and understand this must be emotionally challenging. As Annie said, you will need to do a DNA test for conclusive answers. I wish you all the best.
COMMUNITY LEADER
When you say, in your initial post, "it says my conceived date would be 09/10/18" I assume you meant 04/10/18? And when you say just above, "I was feeling pregnancy feels for about a week from aug 14th," I assume you mean April 14th? It's pretty hard to understand your posts.
What I *think* you are saying is:
First day of last period March 26
Sex April 9 with someone not boyfriend, used condom
Sex on April 9 with boyfriend, no condom
Sex on April 13 with boyfriend, no condom
Feeling pregnancy symptoms April 14-21
First ultrasound around April 23, due date given was Jan. 1
Second ultrasound (date not mentioned) due date given was Dec. 31
If I'm guessing right and the list above is correct, your ultrasounds do point to April 9 as the date of conception.
That means it all hangs on how careful you and the guy who is not your boyfriend were when using the condom. Condoms are supposed to be put on before the guy even gets hard, to avoid pre-ejaculatory fluid from getting into the woman from pre-penetration contact with the penis, or possibly fluid getting onto the outside of the condom. Pre-ejaculatory fluid can contain sperm. It's not a source of sperm, but if the guy has had an ejaculation prior to getting the erection with you, there can be sperm left in his urethra, and it can hitch a ride down the penis into your body before the condom goes on. If you can remember the condom use, was it perfect or was it haphazard, maybe being put on late or slipping?
If you have a big budget, you can do a pre-natal DNA test right now. I suggest Ravgen or the DDC, Ravgen if you want to keep the test of your boyfriend a secret from him. If the high cost of pre-natal testing is just impossible, post-natal tests are much cheaper than pre-natal tests (about a tenth as costly), and one has to be done in your case for sure. Many women just wait and do one after the baby is born because of the cost. In either case, your best bet is to test with both men.
Often women write in saying that telling their boyfriend that there is a reason to test will mean the end of the relationship, even if he is proven to be the father. If you simply cannot stand the idea of having to admit to your boyfriend that you slept with someone else, then at the very least, test with Mr. Not Boyfriend when the baby comes. It would be morally wrong not to test, everyone deserves to know for sure, especially your child. Also, in this day and age of doing 23-And-Me kinds of DNA tests just for fun, there is every chance that your child will someday do one, and find out if his assumed father is not his father. The conversation to avoid is not the one this year where you say casually to your boyfriend that he has the right to ask for a DNA test before taking on the job of dad, and so let's go ahead and do one when the baby comes so he will never have to wonder. The conversation you REALLY don't want to have is one 21 years from now when your beloved child who has trusted you all his life asks why you lied to him all these years about something as important as his paternity. The truth's going to out, and when it comes to paternity, sooner is much better than later.
What I *think* you are saying is:
First day of last period March 26
Sex April 9 with someone not boyfriend, used condom
Sex on April 9 with boyfriend, no condom
Sex on April 13 with boyfriend, no condom
Feeling pregnancy symptoms April 14-21
First ultrasound around April 23, due date given was Jan. 1
Second ultrasound (date not mentioned) due date given was Dec. 31
If I'm guessing right and the list above is correct, your ultrasounds do point to April 9 as the date of conception.
That means it all hangs on how careful you and the guy who is not your boyfriend were when using the condom. Condoms are supposed to be put on before the guy even gets hard, to avoid pre-ejaculatory fluid from getting into the woman from pre-penetration contact with the penis, or possibly fluid getting onto the outside of the condom. Pre-ejaculatory fluid can contain sperm. It's not a source of sperm, but if the guy has had an ejaculation prior to getting the erection with you, there can be sperm left in his urethra, and it can hitch a ride down the penis into your body before the condom goes on. If you can remember the condom use, was it perfect or was it haphazard, maybe being put on late or slipping?
If you have a big budget, you can do a pre-natal DNA test right now. I suggest Ravgen or the DDC, Ravgen if you want to keep the test of your boyfriend a secret from him. If the high cost of pre-natal testing is just impossible, post-natal tests are much cheaper than pre-natal tests (about a tenth as costly), and one has to be done in your case for sure. Many women just wait and do one after the baby is born because of the cost. In either case, your best bet is to test with both men.
Often women write in saying that telling their boyfriend that there is a reason to test will mean the end of the relationship, even if he is proven to be the father. If you simply cannot stand the idea of having to admit to your boyfriend that you slept with someone else, then at the very least, test with Mr. Not Boyfriend when the baby comes. It would be morally wrong not to test, everyone deserves to know for sure, especially your child. Also, in this day and age of doing 23-And-Me kinds of DNA tests just for fun, there is every chance that your child will someday do one, and find out if his assumed father is not his father. The conversation to avoid is not the one this year where you say casually to your boyfriend that he has the right to ask for a DNA test before taking on the job of dad, and so let's go ahead and do one when the baby comes so he will never have to wonder. The conversation you REALLY don't want to have is one 21 years from now when your beloved child who has trusted you all his life asks why you lied to him all these years about something as important as his paternity. The truth's going to out, and when it comes to paternity, sooner is much better than later.
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Ok I’ll start over , My first day of my last period was March 26 18 it was only for
3 days now me and my boyfriend we have been having sex unprotected for about 5 months but he usually pulls out now around april 9th I had sex with a man and before I had sex with this man I was already feeling weird things happening inside my body like my stomach was hurting etc on April 9th I had sex with this man we did use a condom now I remember him putting it on but I don’t remember how carful it was. , I know he did nut inside condom now after that later that night me and my boyfriend had sex and it was not protected I think that’s the day he nuted and also around April 11-15 he nutted agian inside me now on April 14 I started to get bad hurt burn I have never gotten this before and I told him I feel I’m pregnant and I’ve been saying that for the last 3 weeks than I went to the emergency on April 16th 18 they said I wasn’t pregnant but I knew I was because my body wasn’t feeling right , than on may 1st I went to doctor appointment they confirmed I was 4 weeks and 1 day pregnant they gave me a due date Jan 1st when I had my 2nd untra sound they said dec 31st 18
3 days now me and my boyfriend we have been having sex unprotected for about 5 months but he usually pulls out now around april 9th I had sex with a man and before I had sex with this man I was already feeling weird things happening inside my body like my stomach was hurting etc on April 9th I had sex with this man we did use a condom now I remember him putting it on but I don’t remember how carful it was. , I know he did nut inside condom now after that later that night me and my boyfriend had sex and it was not protected I think that’s the day he nuted and also around April 11-15 he nutted agian inside me now on April 14 I started to get bad hurt burn I have never gotten this before and I told him I feel I’m pregnant and I’ve been saying that for the last 3 weeks than I went to the emergency on April 16th 18 they said I wasn’t pregnant but I knew I was because my body wasn’t feeling right , than on may 1st I went to doctor appointment they confirmed I was 4 weeks and 1 day pregnant they gave me a due date Jan 1st when I had my 2nd untra sound they said dec 31st 18
What number of weeks did they tell you that you were, when you had your second ultrasound where they said December 31 was your due date?
When I went to see what the baby was that was aug 10th 18 I ask them that date is due date still Jan 1st they said it’s dec 31st
So, that would make the list:
First day of last period March 26
Sex April 9 with someone not boyfriend, used condom
Sex on April 9 with boyfriend, no condom
Sex on April 13 with boyfriend, no condom
Feeling pregnancy symptoms April 14-21
First ultrasound around April 23, due date given was Jan. 1
Second ultrasound on August 10, due date given was Dec. 31
Again, if the above is correctly understanding what you have said, it does sound like you conceived on the day you had sex with both men. Then a lot hangs on the use of the condom being flawless, and the only way to get an answer is by a DNA test, either before or after the baby is born.
First day of last period March 26
Sex April 9 with someone not boyfriend, used condom
Sex on April 9 with boyfriend, no condom
Sex on April 13 with boyfriend, no condom
Feeling pregnancy symptoms April 14-21
First ultrasound around April 23, due date given was Jan. 1
Second ultrasound on August 10, due date given was Dec. 31
Again, if the above is correctly understanding what you have said, it does sound like you conceived on the day you had sex with both men. Then a lot hangs on the use of the condom being flawless, and the only way to get an answer is by a DNA test, either before or after the baby is born.
The only thing is my first ultra sound was may 10 I found out may 1st I was pregnant and boyfriend said he nutted in me both times
Well, when the first ultrasound was doesn't make much difference once you have the due date. And both due dates that came from ultrasounds point to the eventful day when you had sex with two guys. So it all does hang on what happened with the condom, whether it was effective or not. No way to know that until a DNA test. Sorry there is no easier way.
COMMUNITY LEADER
OK, if they told you that you were 4 weeks pregnant, that would have to be just calculated from the first day of your last period. Did you have a second ultrasound, and did they confirm or change the due date based on the second one?
Also, could you explain what the following means from your original question:
"I felt symptoms starting April 14 18"
"I did have sex on April 9 with 2 people I used a condom with one and if I can remember he did nut in me guy with no condom"
Also, could you explain what the following means from your original question:
"I felt symptoms starting April 14 18"
"I did have sex on April 9 with 2 people I used a condom with one and if I can remember he did nut in me guy with no condom"
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When I first had my ultra sound they told me Jan 1st than when we had a 2nd one they said dec 31st , and I was saying I was feeling pregnancy feels for about a week from aug 14th Thur on I had sex with 2 people the same day on the 9th but I used protection with the first guy my boyfriend we did not use protection neither times in that week we had sex the 9th and I want to say the 13th and he did nut both times inside me
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi, Freeking, did you have an ultrasound early in the pregnancy? Did they give you a due date?
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Yes may 1st they said I was 4 weeks pregnant and due date dec 31st
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