conception

[skii1010]

I need help plz I ask everyone not to judge me and give me the best advice and help I need
I had my lmp on aug 19 my due date is may 26 idk if my cycle is 28 days or when exactly I ovulated :( I had sex with guy 1 on the 2nd of Sep than guy 2 on 5th of Sep can someone plz tell me when I conceived my last ultrasound was jan 4 and they say I'm 19 w & 4 d on the pic.

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, well, there is no definitive answer yet.  Guy #1 has a slight edge, but only slight.  You will definitely need to do a DNA test once the baby is born, since there is the chance sperm got into your system each time, and since both guys are resisting the notion that they are the father.  In the meantime there are some other steps to take:

-  get an ultrasound the week of the 26th of January.  That be week 7 of your pregnancy (counted from the first day of your last period).  With some careful calculation, a seventh-week ultrasound can be helpful for trying to determine an estimated conception date.  

-  assess what it means that both guys don't want a kid.  It probably means neither will be there emotionally (as a father) and certainly both will not pay child support without hard proofs.  They will probably both press you to get an abortion; if that is not something you would ever consider, then start making plans for being a single mother without the daddy's interest or emotional support.  (This means figuring out your job, day care, where you will live, money, and legals.)

Once you get the ultrasound, send me a note.

[ricanhondachick]

I also have the same problem. Had my period December 8th til the 12th, had sex with a guy 1 on the 14th, he ejaculated in me, than we had sex again on the 23rd but he didn't ejaculate this time. But I also had sex with guy 2 before my period and I beleive on December 20th both times he just pulled out, so he says.  I took a pregnancy test on January 7th and it came out possitive. What date did i ovulate and or conceive?? Im so stressed not knowing who can be the father... and to make matters worse both men said they not ready for kid at the moment. Please help with any suggestions... thanks

[AnnieBrooke]

The first guy has a better chance, but unfortunately the dates are still too close to count the other guy out.  When the baby is born and you get a DNA test, there is just a slightly higher chance it's guy 1.  But you do need the test, it's too close for absolute certainty.

[skii1010]

My first ultrasound ssid I was 6w 5d 10/05 my second ultrasound said I was 10w 5d on 11/02

[skii1010]

Yes my first ultrasound said I was 6w & 5d & my first dr appt was 10/05

[AnnieBrooke]

Did you have any earlier ultrasounds?  A 19-week ultrasound is not going to be pinpoint in its accuracy when it comes to timing the pregnancy, and your choices are very close together.  

The conception calculator gives the following:

First day of last menstrual period:  August 19, 2012
Probable date of ovulation:  September 2, 2012
Possible dates of conception:  August 29 to September 6, 2012
Due date:  May 26, 2013 (40 weeks)