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Help a momma out please (long description)

Hello everyone,

So I've written about this before but I could really use some advice I'll give you all an overview of my situation and hopefully someone can give me some advice that will help me out.

So I found out I was pregnant on janurary 1,2019. I had my period Nov 5-9th On November 9,2018 I had sex with guy #1 first and last time it happened not sure if he did or did not finish it was a drunken mistake night. Fast forward to mid November up till December I had sex with guy #2 I say more than 5 sexual encounters with guy #2 in December.  I DONT remember of I had a regular period In December but I do remember clotting and blood on December 6 and 7 not sure if the situation is just messing with my mind and not allowing me to remember if it was a normal period or not. Fast forward to janurary 1,2019 I went to the hospital for pain. if my period would have been from December 2-7 I would have been dating at 4 weeks 2 days pregnant. The 2 ultrasounds they took that day on my stomach and intravaginal dated me at 4 weeks 6 days pregnant here is my time line. According to ultrasounds

Janurary 1,2019
4 weeks 6 days EDD according to period September 8,2019

Feb 6,2019
10 weeks 0 days
EDD by ultrasound September 3,2019

February 26,2019
12 weeks 3 days EDD September 7,2019

April 9,2019
18 weeks 5 days EDD September 6,2019

May 28,2019
25 weeks 5 days EDD September 6,2019

It seems ALL my ultrasounds are conclusive but my mind is not allowing me to accept who the father is which according to my ultrasounds would be December guy and the ideal guy the person I DO WANT to be the father. I'm not sure how to get this thought and this anxiety out of my head it is a constant battle. I keep thinking that the ultrasounds are wrong that the due date is wrong but EVERY ultrasound has been conclusive and have backed each other up by dates my kind keeps saying what if November guy is the dad and the thought wont leave my mind. What if the ultrasounds are wrong what if you just involved December guy and he isnt the dad I dont know what to do how to clear my mind or my anxiety I really need some advice and some peace of mind I'm sorry this was so long but I have no one to talk to and my anxiety is getting worse as time gets closer. People keep saying I look too big to be 6 months far along and that also is a mental trigger for me. I dont know what to do please any advice is appreciated.
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Also another reason I guess my mind isnt at ease is because me and guy #2 had a 7 year relationship prior and we never had a pregnancy scare we broke up for 6 months and this happens I dont know what tilo think.
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I truly believe no matter what any of day you will worry . I was in your same situation just a few months ago . It ruined my pregnancy bc I believed the impossible could happen and the guy I didn’t want to be the father would be . I searched all over for any support to help me stop worry and each time I heard everything was ok I’d be alright for a day or two and then worry again . I read your post and you don’t have anything at all to worry about period !! However your mind will start to convince you otherwise . Please feel free to reach out to me . I know what I went through . I wish you would believe what people are telling you but part of pregnancy is irrationality! Until you hold your baby will you realize how petty it was to worry so much about something impossible
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Lisa, there's no way all those ultrasounds can be wrong. They suggest pregnancy at ovulation Dec 14th, with sex prior to Dec 9th out of contention. On a standard 28 day cycle your last period would have started Nov 28th. Best of luck!
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