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Hi I had my last period on the 13th of June and I slept with my ex boyfriend on the 19 of June without a protection and on the 21of June I slept with my boyfriend without a protection and I find out I'm pregnant on the 15 of July please help me who can be responsible
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Hi Thank you for answering me my period began on the 13th of June and I have not done an ultrasound yet I'm planning to do it next week
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And, are your menstrual months super regular or do they vary?
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Hi, Loli, when was your next period due? If your last period began (not ended) on June 13, and if your cycles are super regular and your next period always comes 28 days after the last one begins, your ovulation would have been on around June 27. The ex on the 19th would have been too early in the month to get you pregnant.
But, lots of women don't have cycles like clockwork with periods that come every 28 days, and if that is also true of you, you need an ultrasound. When did you figure out you were pregnant, and have you seen a doctor yet and gotten an ultrasound?
But, lots of women don't have cycles like clockwork with periods that come every 28 days, and if that is also true of you, you need an ultrasound. When did you figure out you were pregnant, and have you seen a doctor yet and gotten an ultrasound?
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Write back when you get the ultrasound next week. There's still the chance that they will give you a due date based on it that suggests the first guy was too early.
Yes I think you have a good point I should tell both guys to split the bill for prenatal test but I'm not sure which hospital do it...I will check out on Google
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If you are in the U.S., both Ravgen and the DDC have relationships all over the country with various labs where you can have the blood drawn. So call either coumpany.
Be sure to go with both guys when they go, and witness them doing their swabs. (Guys have been known to send a buddy in their place if they don't want to be found out as the dad.)
Be sure to go with both guys when they go, and witness them doing their swabs. (Guys have been known to send a buddy in their place if they don't want to be found out as the dad.)
Also, keep in mind that prenatal DNA testing is about ten times as expensive as it is to wait and test once the baby comes. If you are going to have the baby regardless of who is the dad, and if both guys will test once the baby comes, you could wait to test until after the baby is born. I don't suggest that (to anyone who can afford the cost of prenatal DNA testing) because it means everyone has to hang fire for months and months, until the baby comes. Knowing who the dad is while you are still pregnant helps everyone. But if the money is a problem, it is undeniably a costly test. You should know that the tests after the baby is born are not so costly.
Finally, if you do test with both guys and use a reliable lab like Ravgen or the DDC, probably the guy who is the dad will not fight you on having his name on the birth certificate. (One of the important reasons to test with both possible dads is that their tests act as an accuracy check on each other. One will come up 'yes' and the other will come up 'no,' and the tests act as a quality check on each other.) But if one of the men is uncooperative with the idea of DNA testing either now or after the baby comes, you should also know that once the baby is born a judge can have him be served a summons to take a DNA test.
Finally, if you do test with both guys and use a reliable lab like Ravgen or the DDC, probably the guy who is the dad will not fight you on having his name on the birth certificate. (One of the important reasons to test with both possible dads is that their tests act as an accuracy check on each other. One will come up 'yes' and the other will come up 'no,' and the tests act as a quality check on each other.) But if one of the men is uncooperative with the idea of DNA testing either now or after the baby comes, you should also know that once the baby is born a judge can have him be served a summons to take a DNA test.
Thank you very much for your help I will do so....my boyfriend we had sex on the 21 until today we have not done it since it's a long distance relationship and my period is not always changing usually is on the 25 if it changes it happens maybe after two or three months
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When you said "my boyfriend we had sex on the 21 until today we have not done it since it's a long distance relationship" without punctuation it's hard to tell what you mean for sure. Did you mean:
a) "My boyfriend -- we had sex on the 21 until today. We have not done it since it's a long-distance relationship." or
b) "My boyfriend -- we had sex on the 21, until today we have not done it [again], since it's a long-distance relationship."
I'm guessing you meant the second thing. Unfortunately, if so, that puts you in a bind. If the sex with the other guy was on the 19th and sex with your boyfriend was the 21st, and you never slept with anyone else after that, it means living sperm from both guys were in your reproductive tract at the same time, since the sperm from the 19th would still be alive on the 21st. And that means either guy could be the dad, and almost certainly an ultrasound will not be able to sort it out.
Can you afford to do a prenatal DNA test? Ravgen and the DDC offer them, it's a blood test from you (your arm) and a cheek swab from the guy(s). I assume you plan to hide this from your boyfriend? If not, you should test with your boyfriend and the other guy and the three of you could split the cost. Or, you and the guy from the 19th could split the cost. He has a vested interest in finding out if your child is from the sex with him, after all.
a) "My boyfriend -- we had sex on the 21 until today. We have not done it since it's a long-distance relationship." or
b) "My boyfriend -- we had sex on the 21, until today we have not done it [again], since it's a long-distance relationship."
I'm guessing you meant the second thing. Unfortunately, if so, that puts you in a bind. If the sex with the other guy was on the 19th and sex with your boyfriend was the 21st, and you never slept with anyone else after that, it means living sperm from both guys were in your reproductive tract at the same time, since the sperm from the 19th would still be alive on the 21st. And that means either guy could be the dad, and almost certainly an ultrasound will not be able to sort it out.
Can you afford to do a prenatal DNA test? Ravgen and the DDC offer them, it's a blood test from you (your arm) and a cheek swab from the guy(s). I assume you plan to hide this from your boyfriend? If not, you should test with your boyfriend and the other guy and the three of you could split the cost. Or, you and the guy from the 19th could split the cost. He has a vested interest in finding out if your child is from the sex with him, after all.
I'm not sure because I was using an implant since I took it off I usually see my period on the 25 of each month if it changing I see them on the 13 of each moth
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What does "since I took it off I usually see my period on the 25 of each month if it changing I see them on the 13 of each month" mean? Have your menstrual months changed since you removed the implant? And how long ago was that?
I also guess I should ask if the 21st was the last time you had sex with anyone. (I've been assuming you continued to have sex after that with your boyfriend.)
Anyway, I suggest you get an ultrasound -- this week would not be too soon. In your 6th or 7th week (counted from the first day of your most recent period), an ultrasound is the most helpful for trying to determine exactly when the baby was conceived. (Next week is therefore not going to be as good as this week; the week after would not be as good as next week.) If you have to, pay cash to get in where the doctor will do an ultrasound; also let your doctor know you would like to be called if someone cancels an appointment in the meantime and will take that spot, in order to get in sooner.
When you are at the doctor's, the assistant will ask you when your last period was. Either say you can't remember, or just tell them your cycles have lately been so irregular that you think the date might confuse things. If you do give them a date (or have already done so), be sure to tell them that you don't want it to be used to try to give you an estimated due date. Otherwise they might just count forward from your period and deem you having got pregnant on a certain day, but that kind of count is based on averages and likely to be inaccurate. To be sure nobody just uses a little cardboard wheel and twirls it and gives you a due date without looking at what the ultrasound measurements show, your best bet really is just to say you don't remember when your last period came.
Once you are given an estimated due date that is from the baby's measurements on the ultrasound, go home with that estimated due date and count back from it 266 days on a calendar, or look online for a conception calculator and it will do the count automatically. That will give you an estimated conception date. With that, you should be able to see if the guy on the 19th was too early. His sperm could live 5-6 days in your body after the sex, so one would hope that the ultrasound says a date after the 25th. (This is why my question above about whether you continued to sleep with your boyfriend after the sex on the 21st.)
Anyway, do everything you can to book a doctor appointment that will provide you an ultrasound, like right away. Right now is the best time window for that to be useful.
I also guess I should ask if the 21st was the last time you had sex with anyone. (I've been assuming you continued to have sex after that with your boyfriend.)
Anyway, I suggest you get an ultrasound -- this week would not be too soon. In your 6th or 7th week (counted from the first day of your most recent period), an ultrasound is the most helpful for trying to determine exactly when the baby was conceived. (Next week is therefore not going to be as good as this week; the week after would not be as good as next week.) If you have to, pay cash to get in where the doctor will do an ultrasound; also let your doctor know you would like to be called if someone cancels an appointment in the meantime and will take that spot, in order to get in sooner.
When you are at the doctor's, the assistant will ask you when your last period was. Either say you can't remember, or just tell them your cycles have lately been so irregular that you think the date might confuse things. If you do give them a date (or have already done so), be sure to tell them that you don't want it to be used to try to give you an estimated due date. Otherwise they might just count forward from your period and deem you having got pregnant on a certain day, but that kind of count is based on averages and likely to be inaccurate. To be sure nobody just uses a little cardboard wheel and twirls it and gives you a due date without looking at what the ultrasound measurements show, your best bet really is just to say you don't remember when your last period came.
Once you are given an estimated due date that is from the baby's measurements on the ultrasound, go home with that estimated due date and count back from it 266 days on a calendar, or look online for a conception calculator and it will do the count automatically. That will give you an estimated conception date. With that, you should be able to see if the guy on the 19th was too early. His sperm could live 5-6 days in your body after the sex, so one would hope that the ultrasound says a date after the 25th. (This is why my question above about whether you continued to sleep with your boyfriend after the sex on the 21st.)
Anyway, do everything you can to book a doctor appointment that will provide you an ultrasound, like right away. Right now is the best time window for that to be useful.
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