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conception... who's the father please help!

My Lmp was July 17 2013 i slept with one of my children fathers on July 27th at about 3:30am we had oral sex and that's when the precome came we then started having sex before he ejaculated he pulled out and we were done i then had sex with my youngest kid dad on July 28, and July 31st i took a pregnancy test August 14th it was negative then again on the 16 it was POSITIVE! Went to the E.R the urine test was negative but the blood test was POSITIVE and was only at 53 someone please help who could be the father?
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134578 tn?1642048000
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What a good result!  I'm glad you were able to get the test.  They have got to come down in price, it would save so much misery.
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Well the SECOND GUY which is my boyfriend WAS THE FATHER99.9% we got a DNA test done while I'm pregnant which cost over $1,000 but it was so worth it:)
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We are going to get the blood test its a little over 1600$ but they said as long as we pay the 995$ they will give us the results and we will pay the rest over 4 months.. it's really expensive but i need to do it so that I MYSELF can sleep better at night.... and btw the guy i had sex with on the 28 th is the same guy as on the 31st which is the second guy, and the first guy was on the 27th.. hopefully we just get this handled sooner rather then later because it is stressful.
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134578 tn?1642048000
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Here is what the conception calculator says for the due date of April 30.

     Probable date of ovulation:  August 7
     Possible dates of conception:  August 3 to August 11
     Due date:  April 30 (40 weeks)

You can see why I asked you if you had sex later than the two dates you mentioned.  Looking at the range of possible dates, while the sex on the 28th *could* have done it if the guy had long-lived sperm, the sex on the 31st has a higher chance, since the reach of longevity of sperm from that date goes into August (at least until the 5th).  With both guys almost close enough to the earliest possible conception date (of August 3) to be plausible, you really will need to ultimately do a DNA test.  I'm glad your boyfriend knows, making it a simple matter to do the Walgreen's test when the baby is born.  That said, from the fact that your ultrasound is so early and is backed up by the fact that your earlier pregnancy test came in negative, I would tend to believe it is the later guy and not the earlier guy.

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No! The last time i have had sex was July31st....  the ultrasound gave me a due date of April 30th and my doctor said my LMP gave me a due date for April 25th
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134578 tn?1642048000
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Babee, did you have sex with anyone after July 28, such as, around August 7?

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Okay everyone i got an ultrasound today and it measured 5weeks 2 days they didn't see the fetal pole only the sac i go back in 2 weeks to get another one done... the ultrasound gave me a due date between April 30th and May 1st which is off from what i thought seeing that my LMP was July 17
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I would just be thankful ur bf still wants to be there most guys wouldnt handle that well at all. He a keeper
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Thanks everyone both of them know so the only thing i can do is WAIT and btw it was almost 48 hours apart the first guy was at 3:30 am on the 27th it was after we went to the club on his birthday July26 but technically it was the 27th ONLY because it was after 12am but the guy was on the 28th really really close to the 29th.... i know it probably could be either so I'm just preparing myself i have kids by both of them already so hey.. guess I'll just see what the doctor say
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3360193 tn?1365871889
The truth is, it doesn;t matter which way you paint it, or who you want the dad to be,    You slept with two guys, less than 24 hours apart.    As the girls have said, sperm can live in you for up to  a week, so by cheating on your fella with your ex means that, in all honesty, either male has the possibility of being the dad, and it can only be found out by having a DNA test.  

Precum can have sperm in it - in a recent study, 41% of males had sperm in their pre-***.    What they found was that the men who didn't have sperm in their pre-*** had NEVER had sperm in their pre-*** (authenticated by future research and studies using the same control group), but 41% did have sperm in their pre-*** and these men had ALWAYS produced sperm in their precum - this 41% of males CAN get you pregnant even if there is only pre-*** ejaculated before he pulls out.    This is why there are so many girls who get pregnant even when their partners use the "pull-out method", which isn;t reliable in the slightest.
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4835896 tn?1369369421
Precum can definitely get you pregnant .. it happened tome .. but if your youngest childchild's father actually came inside you I will say its him . .. but that is very close and I would get a DNA test to be 100% positive
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You normally ovulate about 2 weeks after your period, which would mean most likely it's your youngest dad.
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Yea it could be either one!! An dna test would prove it too! Also if the dads have different blood types can also tell too!!
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DNA test is the only way to know for sure. I'm sure the second guy will stay with you if he loves you, stick it out with him even when he gets upset, it's normal for him to react that way. Good luck honey, [email protected]!t happens, you're a victim of crummy circumstance. But it'll work out
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5609583 tn?1373500339
There's only one day between..even an ultrasound is going to be no help to you.. the only thing you can do is have a DNA test when baby is born. Good luck though.
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5492154 tn?1374801006
I don't mean to burst your bubble or crush your hopes but even early ultrasound it can still be either since there is only minimal days between them
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I told the first one the day i took the test and it was positive.. i just told my boyfriend he said that he still wanted to be with me.. i feel relieved for telling him but I'm still crying i just hope when i get my early ultra sound it tells me a little more
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5549102 tn?1376522673
DNA days are way too close. It doesn't matter If the other guy pulled out or not. I wish you luck and as someone posted above you need to let them both know that they may be competing for fatherhood against one another.
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5609583 tn?1373500339
Its EXTREMELY likely that precum can get you pregnant.. how do you think all the people who thought the pull out method worked got pregnant?! 2 guys in 2 days is just too close to tell. You'll have to have a DNA test. And tell the youngest kids dad it nay not be his. That's not right or fair to him to not know the full story.
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5518191 tn?1370138175
thank you Dominique. and like i said twice sperm can live in your body 4-5 days...so whether you ovulated the 31st or 1st either sperm couldve won the race to your egg. And its very very possoble to get pregnant from precum, and precum can happen all the way up until the cums.
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its highly unlikely for precum to get a girl pregnant.. unless he dropped a full load in u ur good lol but to me it points to ur youngest kids father. good luck:)
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I told them both i was pregnant but didn't tell my youngest kid father it could be someone else he HATES my other child father
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My ovulation day was also either the 31st or the 1st of August does that help?
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Precum doesn't only happen in the beginning it can actually happen all through out the act and pulling out doesn't work all the time.. it really could be either guy. You should tell them both and get a DNA test.
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