Being Bipolar and Keeping Relationships

[RyeBear]

I am Bipolar and have problems in keeping relationships. Having an odd avoidance in using most communicational devices (phones -unless called, even then I feel like I shouldn't be on it for more than 10 minutes- , mail, and e-mail), it is hard to keep in contact with those I love. I also have trouble committing myself to the idea of hanging out with my friends. This is not the only problem. For instance, there is a good friend of mine that I would like to be close with (more than just friendly), but at the same time, I can't help but feel uneasy about the idea of holding hands, kissing, and more with him. I am at a loss as to what to do. I want to be close, yet it's as though there is a barrier that holds me back. Is there a way to overcome this?

[zack32]

The bipolar can play a big part in this. Perhaps explain to this person what you want and how you feel. Perhaps he will be willing to work with you. In time as you get closer you may feel more comfortable in doing more. You may subconsciously feel vulnerable. Not a doctor though so please just take this as advice.

[RyeBear]

But what about sudden bouts of being very sociable and very antisocial - for no appearant reason? Wouldn't that fall under bipolar disorder?

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Your diagnosis may not have anything to do with your avoidance fear reactions.  You can get help in changing these specific behaviors or you can experiment on your own in order to find out that there is nothing to be afraid of....