Doctor, my wife and I are having some problems sexually. I would like to know more about Female Sexual Arousal Disorder, Sexual Aversion Disorder, and Inhibited Sexual Desire. All three are closely linked to our specific problem, and I would like to find a means and methods way of fixing our problem.
Some specific background info for your use:
Ages : Me, 32 - Wife, 31
My wife and I are 1 year into marriage, but our problems have been steadily getting worse starting from 3 years back. We have known each other, and been sexually active for 4 years now. The first year was good (not spectacular), and getting worse as we go.
I assumed that our sexual relations would get better after marriage. This has not happened. I am not above suspicion that it could be my problem, but I do not have any physical abnormalities that would suggest this, and I have no libido problems. This suggests that it would be my wife's problem, either physically, or mentally. At this time, I would like to rule out any physical abnormalities within my wife that could be the cause to this problem. Ruling these out, I will then pursue any mental deficiencies, whether on my part, or my wife's.
Additionally, when we discuss this problem, my wife expresses that she has no "desire" to pursue sexual relations. When I pursue, we have normal sex (no kinky activities), she is physically aroused, but rarely achieves orgasm. She does not believe in touching herself sexually, and is listless in bed. This brings me to believe that she is pensive about this activity or sex in general. This does not explain why we had good relations in the past.
As I said, I need a place to start. Logically, the physical aspects of both our bodies will be easier and faster to rule out any abnormalities than our mental status. If you know of any past experiences with other couples that can direct us in a logical direction to start, please e-mail me.