I crumble around hostility as well. I've lost jobs and relationships because of my social weaknesses. I'm a 22y/o male and would like to say that I'm releived to have found this site. We're not alone.
thanks forall those who wrote in supportive and understanding messages.
my best, batu
I second that, it could have been me saying exactly what u said. i am on Xanax and faverin. My age is 36. And by the way i love u for a simple reason, because we have something in commen. Think + and do Abdominal breathing and walking exercises, they seem to help me a lot.
wish u all the best
dear batu,, i feel the exact same way that you wrote i could have written that!! i am in therapy but it really hasent helped me that much, mean while im always very stressed i dont handle situations very good and im always mad it seems,,i do take xanax for aniexty but i know im just masking my problem,, good luck to you, im in the same boat,, lilangel by the way im 37
Yes, I am going to say therapy because that is the best choice for you...it is actually essential. You already have the insight you need...you can see how your sensitivities and defensiveness are responses to your history...that is quite normal. The problem you are having is you are not able to make the fine distinctions between current reality situations and your emotional memory of the past experiences. They blend into one, and you over react to the current( too defensive, aggressive, or expecting the worse) and this has a negative effect on those around you, and you suffer a second time. this becomes a reenforcing cycle. The only way to stop this is by examining current incidents, step by step, with an objective observer like a therapist. You have to do that until you have a finely tuned reality assessment system that allows you to relax and enjoy and trust, when that is appropriate, safe and realistic.
In a few weeks, psychology today.com will be on line with a complete list of therapists around the country and some search capacity. if you want something sooner, go to 4therapy.com, they also have a search capacity.
You should be looking for talk therapy, not medication.
I would recommend attending meetings for Adult Children of Alcoholics. I did a quick search and found the following website. I hope it helps. My father was an alcoholic and I spent a lot of time going to ACOA meetings to learn how to heal.
GOOD LUCK. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
http://www.findingstone.com/allkindsofstuff/acoa/
findingstone counseling
4450 North 12th Street
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Phoenix, Arizona 85014
602-234-0541