I am sorry that at 13 years you are feeling so sad and depressed. A complete counseling is beyond the scope of this online guidance, but I hope I am able to reach out to you to some extent.
Teenage is a difficult time for all. We are all different and in a group of friends, each friend is different. So, you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Not all of us like to hang around in big groups. That makes us different from a person who hangs around in a big group. This person may find you strange. Similarly this person would be strange in eyes of another person who is happy with just a friend or two. So, it is not important to have a big circle of friend. Also, your best friend may not be from school. You could cultivate a close friend anywhere—in school, a senior or a junior, your colony, at a coaching class or at an activity class. It is important to have a friend, but not having a very close friend does not mean that you are worthless. Many children just drift around in school because they like it that way.
Also, you don’t have to make a special effort to win over someone. This causes conflicting personalities within you. Just be yourself. With time people around you will start accepting you for what you are and realize what a beautiful fun loving person you are. Talk to someone you feel close to in school and to your school counselor to find out if really there is a reason why others hate you. Maybe it’s just that you are feeling so low that you imagine this hatred.
It is natural for your parents to feel sad if they see you sad. You are not making them sad. Your thoughts and feelings are beyond your control and over whelming you. So, you are not deliberately doing anything with an intention to worry your parents. You are just 13, and who else can lend better support than your parents. So talk to them.
Also, crying does not help (I know its beyond your control—but try and make a conscious effort). Try to keep yourself busy in activities you like apart from your studies. Taking up activities like music, art, drama, sports etc also helps build confidence and make friends. Just be yourself. With time you will learn to enjoy being yourself and appreciate the friends around you.
Consult a psychologist/psychiatrist and the school counselor with your parents. See if you can talk to your school counselor on a more regular basis. Also, the school counselor in discussion with your parents may be able to identify your problem and find a solution. Also, therapy can help you channelize your thoughts in a positive direction. Good Luck, try to stay positive, be happy, and take care!
try meditation, it may help you.
I was in your shoes as a kid when i was from 12 to 15. It was a nightmare!! Keep yourself busy listen to the man who gave you advice i went to see a psychologist too helped for a bit but thats it but its different for everyone. Im 52 now. I suffer from depression now myself. I go to my 12 step groups. Emotions anonymous would be good for you. Either in person or online or phone. 12 step groups are a blessing for me and it helps. I go to codependence anonymous meetings now to make a healthy relationship with myself and others. I love it!! God bless and stick up for yourself ok? Love ya, linda p.
Find something you love to do and keep busy doing that. And if you get way down, call someone.
I have been through this for years but have found comfort in knowing im different in many ways. I know who i am and know im a good person and even though i struggle with depression still at 27 that im comfortable with me. I dont have any "friends" i know a few people but no one i trust or that i feel cairs as much as i do about them about me so at times im lonely and it def gets depressing but i found knowing god and knowing he is there helps so so much. I want to share a poem with you i wrote: you say your not like them but they are all the same the same ugly faces hidden by seperate names. They get your hopes up to let you down...do you feel like them when you look around? So i bow my head and get on my knees i ask forgive them all please. I beg for their forgiveness but wont swallow my pride i look for excuses for why they've all lied. Then i lift my head and get up off my knees thank you god that im not like the faces im just like me. I wrote this and everytime i read it im reminded that im a real person with feelings while so maney people just live their lives behind the mask of thier owwn "faces" and we are all different i dont want to be like them or just fit in if i do find a friend at least they wont be fake and i wont have to act like someone im not so they will be around me. Stay true to you and who you are and be proud your not fake