I am currently doing research for an upcoming book which deals with the side effects and withdrawals people have experienced from Effexor XR and other (like) anti-depressants. I am interested in receiving any information current or former users would like to share concerning their experiences with these drugs. Please email me @:
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I DON'T THINK THAT LEAVING IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER. MY HUSBAND HAS USED MULTIPLE DIFFERENT DRUGS OVER THE YEARS AND HERION WAS THE LAST CHOICE AND HAS RELAPSED AND I HAVE NOT LEFT. I THINK IT DEPENDS ON THE RELATIONSHIP. I MYSELF HAVE NEVER DONE THESE THINGS SO I COULD NEVER IMAGINE WHAT HE GOES THROUGH. THERE IS ONLY SO MUCH I CAN TOLERATE. AND HE KNOWS WHEN THAT IS. YES WE FIGHT ABOUT IT BUT TALK ABOUT IT. I WILL ALWAYS BE THERE FOR HIM, NOT THE DRUGS AND SUPPORT HIM IN RECOVERY NOT THE DRUGS AND AS LONG AS HE IS WILLING TO FIGHT , I AM WILLING TO FIGHT. YES I GET TIRED BUT I TOOK MY VOWS SERIOUSLY, AND IF I WAS TO BECOME ILL IN SOME MANNER I KNOW HE WOULD DO THE SAME . I DO ALOT OF RESEARCH AND I CRY ALOT OF TEARS BUT WE JUST TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME . I LOOK AT HIM AS MY HUSBAND , NOT A LOOSER OR A DRUG ADDICT. I LOOK FURTHER INTO THAN THAT. HE IS NOT ABUSIVE EITHER, THAT MAKES THE DIFFERNCE . IF HE DIDN'T TRY THEN I WOULD HAVE TO TAKE A DIFFERENT LOOK.
I'm an addict on the other side of the coin. I however am not mean. I say your husband with his methadone doesn't really sound like he wants to quit. I haven't been through rehab yet but I've stopped on my own until I can get help next week. Do give him a chance to see if this works but I wouldn't put up with it a second time. He has to know your serious about leaving if he doesn't change. For me it was the law that made me really see the light. I am a hydrocodone addict, about 250-500mg per day addiction, meaning about 25 to 50 pills a day. If anyone has any advice for me about this addiction or know anything about prescription fraud please write.
Hi,
My children's father was a heroin addict. I loved him so much I accepted this about him and believed him every time he said he was going to stop. He never did. He took breaks here and there, but he never stopped for good. He's sober now, only because he is in jail. I know that heroin is worse than Lortabs (not methadone, however) but they all basically have the same kind of high and the same withdrawal symptoms. The withdrawal symptoms, I've heard, can be really bad.
I don't mean to sound bleak, but it has been from my personal experience that people just don't change. My husband couldn't (or wouldn't) change for me, his kids or himself. Maybe he couldn't. I don't know. Quite honestly, I no longer care.
I also sat and cried for him. worried myself sick every time he went out the door. The only reason he is straight today is because he is in jail. if not, he would either be high or dead.
My advice to you (and believe me, I know it's easier said than done) is to walk away. and any kind of opiate can make a person mean. My husband was mean to me all the time when he was high, mostly because he felt guilty and ashamed of himself, I suppose, and partly because he couldn't enjoy his high around me because I coudn't stand him when he was high.
I wish you and your husband the best. Maybe he will be one of the few who can stop using. miracles happen every day, I guess. Just not in my case.
Regards,
Pan
Your husband has an addictive personality, and he is the one who has to change. Taking that much methadone and driving is extremely dangerous. Is all of this being done under a doctors care? Have you talked to the pain clinic administering methadone? How much pain can he be having if he is able to play golf? I think you and your husband have to go to a marriage counselor and have some staight talk about this, or at the minimum a counslor from the rehab. clinic. YOur marriage is in jeopardy unless your husband gets off his denial.