Sleep Masterbation

[mum4duke]

My husband suffers from bipolar & adhd.  I wake up at night & he is masterbating in his sleep.  If I wake him up and tell him this, he says that I am lying.  My husband weighs 300 pounds & trust me when I tell you, the mattress moves!We haven't had sex in over a month.  We tried this morning (even though I knew that he had been masterbating in his sleep for 1 & 1/2 hours), we no success.  He just swears that I am lying.  But I am not stupid!  Is this masterbation related to the bipolar, as one article read said?

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

It is an error to make this disturbing situation part of some disease package..its something that has be addressed on its own for what it is, and the best way to do that is to see a family counselor or a sex therapist.

[therese83]

Have a sense of humor about it.  

I would not classify it as a 'disturbing situation'?  There are many things far more disturbing in life, isnt this closer to something more 'natural' ?  Or is it just that I am a European.   And he is asleep so it is not like he is doing it on purpose.  Of course sort it out, but dont go over board on it.

[dany_19]

Take a video and show it to him the next morning. He'll be convinced once he sees it.

[mum4duke]

Thank you for helping me with this question.  Do you have any suggestions on how I can convince him that he is doing this?