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My 62 year old husband died recently and i have been trying to find out what personality disorder he would have had. He owned a business with is older brother and identified totally with his family---the brother's children work in the business and he let them take everything out and gave nothing to his children. He let the brother travel all over and did not have a vacation himself in ten years. he never had a day off--and never was late for work. whatever illness his brother had -he thought he had. I know it would be low self-esteem problem --and more than just the brother being a bully all these years-but i don't know where to start reading. to sum  it up if a ship was going down he would push the nephews in the life raft and tell his--we'll get the next.thank you ahead.

[Caitlin01]

Does not seem like any personality disorder based on the information you gave.  It seems like that is just the man he wanted to be.

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

I can't make a diagnosis with that information, but the more important issue is what seems to be your frustration and disappointment with what seems as more loyalty to his family of origin than to the family he created.  That's a hard issue to come to grips with, and the best I can suggest is a series of conversations with a good therapis to try to understand what was going on.