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Please help -stuck in a vicious circle of lies, I cant cope.

Okay, well this is hard for me to admit.
I don't know whats wrong with me but Its ruining my life. I lie about everything and not just small things - huge things.
I'm not from a broken home and my life has been good but now I can't help but lie. I've lied about a sibling dying when I was younger, about relationships, about abusive relationships, I've even lied about my name. I created a whole new life and I don't know why I did it - its not like I made my life seem better - I made it seem worse. I dont know why I did it, I didnt plan to do it but it just keeps happening and now, now I can't go back on what Ive said, its too late. I'm in too deep and every night I promise myself I'm going to stop lying the next day and I really, honestly try but I just cant do it. They just come out and then they get worse and worse and the scariest bit is - whilst I'm living that lie, part of me believes the lie. Like when I lied about having sex, although part of me knew it was a lie, part of me worried about getting pregnant, I even took a pregnancy test to check and at that moment in time, I really honestly believed I'd done what I said.

I want to stop. I so desperatley want to stop but I can't, I don't know how and I can't admit what I've done - I've been lying for years and I'm such a good liar, I'm so good at covering my tracks that I've gotten away with it. But I don't want to lie anymore, I can't cope with the guilt, the sleepless nights the  lack of control over what I say. Help me.
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I have the exact same problem. I lost the father of my baby because I came clean about a lie I told him once about my brother dying - when in fact, he was my step brother, and he died before my mother met his father. I have lied about MASSIVE things like that, and small pointless things like if someone asks what are you doing? I'll say something different to what I am doing. And I don't know why!! And I need to stop because the person I love and need can't trust me anymore :-( if you have figured out a way to stop, please let me know!! Because I'm in the exact same boat. Amazing, I never thought I'd find someone who has the exact same
Problem :-/
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Do you know if you can go see a pyschiatrist or pscychologist without parental permission before you are 18, because I dont want my parents to find out. I know I'll have to tell them at some point but Im just not ready yet.
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there is only one thing for you to do and that is to see a psychiatrist or psychologist who can help you sort this out and start on a new track.you can't do this alone.
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