My girlfriend of 4 years and I have recently broken up. We have a child together and it appears that I will be getting custody. Over the last 6 months, before I left, she exhibited signs of either borderline personality or manic depression - often throwing violent fits and attacking me in front of our son. A year ago she sought help from a psychiatrist who put her on welbutrin and she seemed to improve greatly. Now, she has regressed to violence, fits of anger and depression, she's been arrested for drunken disorder and was put under a 96 hour hold for threatening suicide. Neither her parents nor any other member of her family seem to want to help her - they all throw up their hands and "whatever" her away, which only seems to make her outbursts all the more serious. In the last 2 1/2 years when we were together she was emotionally shut off from me a great deal of the time and now, she won't let me get a word in edgewise, claiming the most hurtful, delusional things imaginable about me (paranoia). I know that I cannot step in to help since my very presence seems to set her off, but I cannot bear to watch my son's mother go into a downward spiral emotionally without trying to find some way of getting her some form of help.
I realize our relationship is over - I'm okay with that. I just don't want anything bad to happen to her and the people she is surrounding herself with are involved with drugs (meth, crank)which she has been doing regularly.
I won't throw up my hands. I won't quit or abandon her. My son needs his mother and I know that somewhere there is a good person there crying out for help. I just need some advise about what I can do or where I can go to find some for her without getting involved as a presence. Everybody tells me to move on: I have. Everybody tells me to give up on her because she's a lost cause: sorry - no one is a lost cause. NO ONE.
I realize there's probably nothing you can do either, but if there are any resources you can point me at, I'd appreciate it.