help,is this therapy appropriate?

[debra21784]

My 16 year old daughter has had 2 back to back hospital  admissions and diagnoised with depression and borderline personality traits.She started cutting and burning herself.We became aware of it 3 months ago and started family therapy with a"CHRISTIAN COUNSELOR".The therapist is not liscensed or vendor eligible.My husband and I have been married and we have examined our daughte's life and ours for any hints of physical/sexual abuse in or outside our home.We have never struck our children,punshing when necessary by taking away privileges.The therapist has informed us that my husband and I need to seperate so my daughter can live with her father and "feel safe"This seems to be the exact behavior the borderline employs.This thearpist is splitting my family and making my daughter view us as good/bad parent.Both my husband and daughter see this therapist as "wonderful"This does not seem to be helping my daughter/or family by splitting us up.Is this direction  appropriate ? Should I insist on a second opinion by a child psychiatrist? The therapist seems to be employing a "splitting" behavior here and I am afriad that is reinforcing this maladaptive behavior in my daughter.
Additionally, these behaviors started in my daughter when my husband and I became at odds over dating a young man 18 years old.

[dgraves]

I am very surprised by your "counselors" approach to treatment.  I recently admitted my 16 year old daughter to a facility because she was cutting herself and had become dissassociated.  So I understand your pain and confusion.  But I do admire your strength to stand up for what you believe is best for her.  This is a confusing sitaution for parents that can't grasp the pain their children are in and only want to help them.  I personally am insisting on being involved in my daughters treatment and pray every night to make the right decisions.  You want to trust those in care of your daughters health, but blind faith is not the way to do it.  Please post and let me know what your second opinion suggest.  This is an issue I am living with and am looking for direction from many parties.

Will keep you and your family in my prayers.  God will care for the weak, by making others stronger.  God Bless.

Catherine

[dgraves]

I am very surprised by your "counselors" approach to treatment.  I recently admitted my 16 year old daughter to a facility because she was cutting herself and had become dissassociated.  So I understand your pain and confusion.  But I do admire your strength to stand up for what you believe is best for her.  This is a confusing sitaution for parents that can't grasp the pain their children are in and only want to help them.  I personally am insisting on being involved in my daughters treatment and pray every night to make the right decisions.  You want to trust those in care of your daughters health, but blind faith is not the way to do it.  Please post and let me know what your second opinion suggest.  This is an issue I am living with and am looking for direction from many parties.

Will keep you and your family in my prayers.  God will care for the weak, but making others stronger.  God Bless.

Catherine

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

There is no question. You should definitely get a second opinion by a qualified and licensed psychiatrist.  Your therapist's recommendation is quite drastic, and in fact, some thing I have never heard of before, so be sure and get that second opinion and stand up for your strong, and very well grounded, assessment of the situation.