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masterbating, how do i stop
I can't stop masterbating. I've been doing it since i was 15 and am in my mid twenties now. Thats almost 10 years now i've been trying in vain to quit. I ve stopped for short period, about a month, but i always do it again even when i had a girlfreind. Its like i cant get enough. People say that materbating is healthy, well in my case that doesnt hold true. It causes sooo many problems. After i first started masterbating, when i was 15 i noticed an odor about me. I thougt it was just me till people started to tell me i stink. I also am very shaky and often have muscle spasms. Sometimes my head will jerk one way or another with out my control. If i drink water my mouth will constantly produce saliva. when i wake up in the morning my stomach hurts and i feel nauseous. If i drink too many liquids i will have headaches. It also becomes harder for me to breathe through my nose. And i cant smell things as well. I also get really sleepy and my muscles become weaker. I cant do as many situps or pushups. My face becomes very oily and i sweat alot more. I also am very forgetful. My mind becomes slower. There is also a cloudy substance in my urine. My palms are also sweaty
During the times i stopped all these symtoms went away, but returned once i started back. This has been the case every time. When i say masterbate i mean i actually ejaculate every time. The symtoms havent been as bad when i didnt ejaculate.
Since i have a bad odor only a few people will be around me. Theres also been a few brave people who told me i need to stop. This i know but i just cant. It interferes with school and my social life. I have no freinds and just want to stay in my room so people can breathe fresh air. Wen i go to a basketball game some people actually say i stink and leave. I just want to be normaly. I even treid using acohol and weed to stop but nothing works. I also tried sleeping in pants. I dont want to drink and i certainly hate smoking. I want to be able to go out to eat and drink water with no fear of stinking. Girls tell me i look good but they dont want to be around me because of my odor. I love women but cant have them. I havent slept with a woman since june 2001. THATS SAD!!
THIS IS NOT A JOKE! I hate myself and sometimes get depressed. It is very hard being like this. can u please tell me how to stop this. Do i have a weak mind since i cant stop.
During the times i stopped all these symtoms went away, but returned once i started back. This has been the case every time. When i say masterbate i mean i actually ejaculate every time. The symtoms havent been as bad when i didnt ejaculate.
Since i have a bad odor only a few people will be around me. Theres also been a few brave people who told me i need to stop. This i know but i just cant. It interferes with school and my social life. I have no freinds and just want to stay in my room so people can breathe fresh air. Wen i go to a basketball game some people actually say i stink and leave. I just want to be normaly. I even treid using acohol and weed to stop but nothing works. I also tried sleeping in pants. I dont want to drink and i certainly hate smoking. I want to be able to go out to eat and drink water with no fear of stinking. Girls tell me i look good but they dont want to be around me because of my odor. I love women but cant have them. I havent slept with a woman since june 2001. THATS SAD!!
THIS IS NOT A JOKE! I hate myself and sometimes get depressed. It is very hard being like this. can u please tell me how to stop this. Do i have a weak mind since i cant stop.
I'm just a regular 14 year old boy who got curious one day and tried masturbating , now I think about doing it everyday of my life. I want to stop because it doesnt feel right, it makes me feel some emotion i never felt before well its not a sexual emotion its like some sort of guilt. has any1 had this emotion before?
Hey GottaStop,
Stopping isn't easy, but it's possible. Here's a few tips.
First you gotta understand that overall ... it is a selfish act. You only benefit yourself and nobody else by masterbating. Sex is meant for 2 people not one. That is the natural way of life. Whenever you masterbate, your only having sex by yourself.
Secondly, do you ever masterbate w/out fantasizing? Usually masterbation accompanies fantasizing. They both compliment each other and make the experience more joyful. I would say fantasizing precedes masterbation. Guys usually get in the mood by fantasizing about a hot lady. Once the fantasizing arouses the guy, the guy usually wants more pleasure and options to masterbates to create an orgasm for him.
I rarely seen a situation where a person does not fantasize while masterbating.
That my friend is the answer to your question. If somehow you can stop fantasizing about hot models/actress/ladies, you will be less aroused. And if you aren't aroused ... why should you masterbate?
This might sound like a cruel joke, but the secret to not masterbating is not thinking of women in that kind of way.
And w/ your case if it does help you stop and be able to get a lady. The result of everything will be.
"By stop thinking of ladies, you have gotten yourself a lady."
Ironic, and cruel, but sadly true.
Stopping isn't easy, but it's possible. Here's a few tips.
First you gotta understand that overall ... it is a selfish act. You only benefit yourself and nobody else by masterbating. Sex is meant for 2 people not one. That is the natural way of life. Whenever you masterbate, your only having sex by yourself.
Secondly, do you ever masterbate w/out fantasizing? Usually masterbation accompanies fantasizing. They both compliment each other and make the experience more joyful. I would say fantasizing precedes masterbation. Guys usually get in the mood by fantasizing about a hot lady. Once the fantasizing arouses the guy, the guy usually wants more pleasure and options to masterbates to create an orgasm for him.
I rarely seen a situation where a person does not fantasize while masterbating.
That my friend is the answer to your question. If somehow you can stop fantasizing about hot models/actress/ladies, you will be less aroused. And if you aren't aroused ... why should you masterbate?
This might sound like a cruel joke, but the secret to not masterbating is not thinking of women in that kind of way.
And w/ your case if it does help you stop and be able to get a lady. The result of everything will be.
"By stop thinking of ladies, you have gotten yourself a lady."
Ironic, and cruel, but sadly true.
I had someone help but this is how I stopped masturbating and looking at porn.
I kept a journal of all the times a day I wished to masturbate or look at porn. I would write down a brief description of the desire and the action taken to try to ignore/resist it. Being that I believe the Word of God, my actions taken to ignore/resist were usually reading the bible or praying (I did not pray that the temptation would be taken away, I prayed that I would be strong enough to overcome it).
At the end of each day I would show the journal to the other person and briefly talk about what I logged in the journal and evaluate my actions.
On days I messed up, we would talk about why and what else could have been done.
After 40 days or so I was pleased to say that I no longer masturbated and neither did I look at porn.
Over the years since upkeep has been necessary, but the difference in my life is great. I had never felt so confident and I also noticed improvements in many areas of my life that were unexpected.
Was it worth it? Without a doubt, YES!!!!
I kept a journal of all the times a day I wished to masturbate or look at porn. I would write down a brief description of the desire and the action taken to try to ignore/resist it. Being that I believe the Word of God, my actions taken to ignore/resist were usually reading the bible or praying (I did not pray that the temptation would be taken away, I prayed that I would be strong enough to overcome it).
At the end of each day I would show the journal to the other person and briefly talk about what I logged in the journal and evaluate my actions.
On days I messed up, we would talk about why and what else could have been done.
After 40 days or so I was pleased to say that I no longer masturbated and neither did I look at porn.
Over the years since upkeep has been necessary, but the difference in my life is great. I had never felt so confident and I also noticed improvements in many areas of my life that were unexpected.
Was it worth it? Without a doubt, YES!!!!
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I don't have an easy answer for you and I know it is a serious problem. I think you should see a psychiatrist for a complete evaluation, and also talk to your internist about the smell issue. The whole smell issue may be a result of the anxiety or guilt that is generated by the masturbation. Masturbation itself is not the whole problem, but your guilt about it is probably at the source of your problem. See a therapist.
You really helped me out I have tried everythang and nothing has helped. I am a christian and I have a a two year old baby boy with the pastors doughter. And now with the help you provided me with I can quit and live a life of freedom without the sin.
Thank you so mutch!
Thank you so mutch!
THE ANSWER IS.......
You are not alone and I think I can help
I can relate to the torment of not being able to control your sexual urges.....
for me it was hell...it ripped away at my self confidence and made me feel like a prisioner in my own body....
I belive the essence of man is free will, if he doesn't have that he is nothing but an animal programmed and destined to follow his genetic inheritance....
I am 32, married with two klids and have a great job and good friends, i have masturbated since i was eleven and have never gone by a few days without doing it. that is until now
...finallly I am close to freedom
Masturbation is neither good nor bad..it is not an absolute, it can be both.
If you want to stop but can't well then that is a problem.
So is there a solution?
Yes there is, and it has nothing to do with God, will power, herbs or breathing as has been suggested by previous comments
I believe is has everything to do with an anxiety caused by an inner conflict.
you wank to feel better because deep down you don't feel good
wanking is great because you can forget yourself and the real world, your focussed and more alive then the rest of the day.
it feels good and for that brief time it takes all your worries away.
so you stop wanking for a day or two...and eventually life throws you a challange or an obsticale, you get angry, scared, stressed or sad. Some negative emotion arises and instead of dealing with that emotion(I'll come back to this later) you ignore it, you may be so good at ignoring your negative emotions that you don't experiance them at all, You see a distressing news story and you ignore it, instead of empathy with the victums of a crime on tv you rationalise that its just another news story...you are bombarded by advertising telling you that your not good enough as you are, that you need something, a car , a ski trip, a beatifull wife, to be happy...that is the number one message in america today...your not good enough you lack something and our product will give it to you...
wanking is a natural response to the society we live in
monkeys masturbate alot more in the confines of a zoo then they do in the wild....yes i am calling you a monkey and america is a zoo...
but you are more then a monkey...because you have self awarness and you know you are living in a zoo.
And this is the key that will release you from your prison of self abuse.
The more stressed you are the more likly you are to masturbate
Oh you can jog, meditate, get massages, become financialy secure, move to the country and stop watching the news in order to remove the stress from your life( i have tried all of these) but they will not stop you from masturbating becuase something will eventually stress you and you have become almost hardwired to wank when stressed....
so what is the answer
The answer is that you need to change the way you deal with stress ( or any negative emotion that you are failing to deal with) men are not good with negative emotions
we have been socialised in the playground and at home to believe that expressing negative emotions such as fear or saddness is a weakness, so in order to appear strong we have repressed these emotions and hidden them from view.
this repression causes an internal conflict
one part of you is saying
I'm sad the world is ****** or my job ***** or i have pimples
or i'm angry because the world is full of injustice
or i'm scared because the future is uncertain
or i'm lonely or worried for any number of things
and another part of you is saying
shut up don't worry be happy. be a man get on with it.
work harder. don't be a sissy. don't be so self centered
i don't have time for all this mopping or worst of all think positive think positive.
this cuases stress because instead of dealing with your negative emotions you are simply trying to avoid , ignore,solve or distract yourself from them.
And you learnt this from your parents and society.
when children are upset most parents try and distract them
they give them toys or sweats or turn on the television
instead of simply validating the emotion and allowing it to occur. parents and teachers and friends especially for boy do not have or take the time to console young males who are sad or scared or anxious...the message is its not real or important or worse still the emotion is wrong get over it. Cheer up its not that bad.
You can't relive your childhood or blame your parents as they were simply doing the best they knew how.
but you can change the way you deal with your negative emotions.
allow them to occur
embrace the inner conflict
recognise that the wanker in you is only trying make you feel better by distracting you from your own emotions.
and the critical part of you that hates the wanker is a mimic of your parents and teachers and preists that is saying you should grow up get on with it be productive.
both parts are good and are trying help, but neither can fix the problem because neither of them is admitting that you are in pain.
and you are in pain because you are ignoring your emotions.
in the end the answer is simply but will take a while to put into practice
love yourself
yes love yourself
forgive yourself for being a wanker, after all it is a natural response to the stress you were failing to deal with.
allow yourself to be sad sometimes and happy at other times
if you are sad..say to yourself i'm sad and that's ok. i can deal with that and after a while you will find that the sadness goes away and a eventually you will deal with it better.
give yourself permission to experiance all you emotions
don't buy into the advertising hype that you must be happy happy happy....
its starnge but if you allow yourself to be sad eventually you will be happier
the key is to be gentle with yourself , show compassion to all the parts of yourself , don't judge yourself , you are fine the way you are ...you have as much right to be here as anything else you are perfect now and i'm sure your doing the best you know how. go easy on yorself and take time to care for yourself. life is hard at times and is full of injustice and suffering...we are all going to grow old and get ill and die...there is no escaping that no matter how fit or rich you are. but there is also great beauty and joy ..to live is to experiance both.
give love a go ..unconditional self love
whether you choose to wank after that is up to you, but at least you won't be wanking because you can't deal with your emotions
give it a go
You are not alone and I think I can help
I can relate to the torment of not being able to control your sexual urges.....
for me it was hell...it ripped away at my self confidence and made me feel like a prisioner in my own body....
I belive the essence of man is free will, if he doesn't have that he is nothing but an animal programmed and destined to follow his genetic inheritance....
I am 32, married with two klids and have a great job and good friends, i have masturbated since i was eleven and have never gone by a few days without doing it. that is until now
...finallly I am close to freedom
Masturbation is neither good nor bad..it is not an absolute, it can be both.
If you want to stop but can't well then that is a problem.
So is there a solution?
Yes there is, and it has nothing to do with God, will power, herbs or breathing as has been suggested by previous comments
I believe is has everything to do with an anxiety caused by an inner conflict.
you wank to feel better because deep down you don't feel good
wanking is great because you can forget yourself and the real world, your focussed and more alive then the rest of the day.
it feels good and for that brief time it takes all your worries away.
so you stop wanking for a day or two...and eventually life throws you a challange or an obsticale, you get angry, scared, stressed or sad. Some negative emotion arises and instead of dealing with that emotion(I'll come back to this later) you ignore it, you may be so good at ignoring your negative emotions that you don't experiance them at all, You see a distressing news story and you ignore it, instead of empathy with the victums of a crime on tv you rationalise that its just another news story...you are bombarded by advertising telling you that your not good enough as you are, that you need something, a car , a ski trip, a beatifull wife, to be happy...that is the number one message in america today...your not good enough you lack something and our product will give it to you...
wanking is a natural response to the society we live in
monkeys masturbate alot more in the confines of a zoo then they do in the wild....yes i am calling you a monkey and america is a zoo...
but you are more then a monkey...because you have self awarness and you know you are living in a zoo.
And this is the key that will release you from your prison of self abuse.
The more stressed you are the more likly you are to masturbate
Oh you can jog, meditate, get massages, become financialy secure, move to the country and stop watching the news in order to remove the stress from your life( i have tried all of these) but they will not stop you from masturbating becuase something will eventually stress you and you have become almost hardwired to wank when stressed....
so what is the answer
The answer is that you need to change the way you deal with stress ( or any negative emotion that you are failing to deal with) men are not good with negative emotions
we have been socialised in the playground and at home to believe that expressing negative emotions such as fear or saddness is a weakness, so in order to appear strong we have repressed these emotions and hidden them from view.
this repression causes an internal conflict
one part of you is saying
I'm sad the world is ****** or my job ***** or i have pimples
or i'm angry because the world is full of injustice
or i'm scared because the future is uncertain
or i'm lonely or worried for any number of things
and another part of you is saying
shut up don't worry be happy. be a man get on with it.
work harder. don't be a sissy. don't be so self centered
i don't have time for all this mopping or worst of all think positive think positive.
this cuases stress because instead of dealing with your negative emotions you are simply trying to avoid , ignore,solve or distract yourself from them.
And you learnt this from your parents and society.
when children are upset most parents try and distract them
they give them toys or sweats or turn on the television
instead of simply validating the emotion and allowing it to occur. parents and teachers and friends especially for boy do not have or take the time to console young males who are sad or scared or anxious...the message is its not real or important or worse still the emotion is wrong get over it. Cheer up its not that bad.
You can't relive your childhood or blame your parents as they were simply doing the best they knew how.
but you can change the way you deal with your negative emotions.
allow them to occur
embrace the inner conflict
recognise that the wanker in you is only trying make you feel better by distracting you from your own emotions.
and the critical part of you that hates the wanker is a mimic of your parents and teachers and preists that is saying you should grow up get on with it be productive.
both parts are good and are trying help, but neither can fix the problem because neither of them is admitting that you are in pain.
and you are in pain because you are ignoring your emotions.
in the end the answer is simply but will take a while to put into practice
love yourself
yes love yourself
forgive yourself for being a wanker, after all it is a natural response to the stress you were failing to deal with.
allow yourself to be sad sometimes and happy at other times
if you are sad..say to yourself i'm sad and that's ok. i can deal with that and after a while you will find that the sadness goes away and a eventually you will deal with it better.
give yourself permission to experiance all you emotions
don't buy into the advertising hype that you must be happy happy happy....
its starnge but if you allow yourself to be sad eventually you will be happier
the key is to be gentle with yourself , show compassion to all the parts of yourself , don't judge yourself , you are fine the way you are ...you have as much right to be here as anything else you are perfect now and i'm sure your doing the best you know how. go easy on yorself and take time to care for yourself. life is hard at times and is full of injustice and suffering...we are all going to grow old and get ill and die...there is no escaping that no matter how fit or rich you are. but there is also great beauty and joy ..to live is to experiance both.
give love a go ..unconditional self love
whether you choose to wank after that is up to you, but at least you won't be wanking because you can't deal with your emotions
give it a go
can someone help me out ? !!!
Iam suffering from:
1)constant headaches.
2)heavy muscles and spasms,pain....head,neck,shoulders and other...
3)dizziness.
4)need to sleep all the time doesnt matter how much i sleep i always feel sleepy and tired.
5)changes in my personality, my friends are getting strange thoughts about me thinking iam crazy or weird or etc...
6)lack of concentration....i was thought to have ADD/ADHD...
Iam sure its not my problem cause I did TOVA test...
7)poor/short-term memory
8)depression with no reason.
9)stress causes tremor to hands,arms,head....
the tremor excessively increases when i do physical exercises.
for example when i used to work out at the gym many of my friends noticed the tremor....!
many people notice iam the kind of a very nervous guy...!
when iam in stress, most of my time i dont set, I walk and walk fast and sometimes walking and eating nervously,confused, I think too much and analyze things...Iam a kind of a thinker....
sometimes after stress I feel I need to run...so I start running like for 30 minutes or more and after i finish I feel the tremor almost gone but after few minutes it comes back....!
afterall the tremor isnt really affecting my life.....
but I think my tired muscles increased the tremor.....
10)Iam hyperactive...when Iam in extacy I feel extreme hyperactivity and can imagine and analyze things just like einstein, although I believe lack of concentration and muscular pain causes me somekind of stupidity...
11)I have TMJ pain...when I eat I feel joint pain,earaching...
but the problem isnt only the TMJ my whole body muscles are tired...Iam maybe a bruxer....I was checked by a dentist and
Iam using nightguard and its not relieving the pain....
Iam 18 years old.
I was checked by many doctors for many health problems...
CT scan was done,sinuses and brain all ok...
blood test was done,i had no problems...
no problems in the eyes...i was checked by a neurologist...
I used to set for many many hours on my computer few years ago...
-I started masterbating when I was 12 years old.
-Iam very addicted to masterbation and sex.
-everytime I masterbate I ejaculate.
-I masterbate everyday but Iam trying to stop these days...
still Iam obsessed to masterbation...
when I used to be 13 or 14 years old I remember everyday I used to masterbate 3 or 4 times as an average...
I remember few days I used to masterbate like 6 times and
sometimes more...few days I reached 10 times...and then I got addicted to it...
I had sex many times with diffirent teens....
although I dont have pleasure with real sex...masterbating
gives me much more pleasure....and everytime i had sex I didnt
ejaculate..only one time when I had sex for 30 minutes until I ejaculated...but when I masterbate I ejaculate in few minutes...
when I ejaculate more than one or two times a day the semen seems to be in small amount and like water...
ejaculation increases my fatigue,headache,dizziness,sleepiness.....
I need a solution.
my life is ruined...I cant even do daily activities...I cant study at home I cant learn at school...headaches all the time...
I stopped excercising because of tired painful muscles...
the headache thing isnt something new to me...I believe the headaches began since I started masterbating many times...Iam talking about when I was 14 years old...and it evolved into something worse...and much more painful...
until this year I noticed something isnt right...
I used to think that the headaches were something natural I always ignored it...and always thought that the cause of it was lack of sleeping...
some days I sleep 6 or 7 hours and other days I sleep like 8,9 or 12 hours....I rarely sleep less than 6 hours...
but what I realized that when ever I ejaculate more and more
I feel need to sleep more hours...
I really need some help !!!!
Iam suffering from:
1)constant headaches.
2)heavy muscles and spasms,pain....head,neck,shoulders and other...
3)dizziness.
4)need to sleep all the time doesnt matter how much i sleep i always feel sleepy and tired.
5)changes in my personality, my friends are getting strange thoughts about me thinking iam crazy or weird or etc...
6)lack of concentration....i was thought to have ADD/ADHD...
Iam sure its not my problem cause I did TOVA test...
7)poor/short-term memory
8)depression with no reason.
9)stress causes tremor to hands,arms,head....
the tremor excessively increases when i do physical exercises.
for example when i used to work out at the gym many of my friends noticed the tremor....!
many people notice iam the kind of a very nervous guy...!
when iam in stress, most of my time i dont set, I walk and walk fast and sometimes walking and eating nervously,confused, I think too much and analyze things...Iam a kind of a thinker....
sometimes after stress I feel I need to run...so I start running like for 30 minutes or more and after i finish I feel the tremor almost gone but after few minutes it comes back....!
afterall the tremor isnt really affecting my life.....
but I think my tired muscles increased the tremor.....
10)Iam hyperactive...when Iam in extacy I feel extreme hyperactivity and can imagine and analyze things just like einstein, although I believe lack of concentration and muscular pain causes me somekind of stupidity...
11)I have TMJ pain...when I eat I feel joint pain,earaching...
but the problem isnt only the TMJ my whole body muscles are tired...Iam maybe a bruxer....I was checked by a dentist and
Iam using nightguard and its not relieving the pain....
Iam 18 years old.
I was checked by many doctors for many health problems...
CT scan was done,sinuses and brain all ok...
blood test was done,i had no problems...
no problems in the eyes...i was checked by a neurologist...
I used to set for many many hours on my computer few years ago...
-I started masterbating when I was 12 years old.
-Iam very addicted to masterbation and sex.
-everytime I masterbate I ejaculate.
-I masterbate everyday but Iam trying to stop these days...
still Iam obsessed to masterbation...
when I used to be 13 or 14 years old I remember everyday I used to masterbate 3 or 4 times as an average...
I remember few days I used to masterbate like 6 times and
sometimes more...few days I reached 10 times...and then I got addicted to it...
I had sex many times with diffirent teens....
although I dont have pleasure with real sex...masterbating
gives me much more pleasure....and everytime i had sex I didnt
ejaculate..only one time when I had sex for 30 minutes until I ejaculated...but when I masterbate I ejaculate in few minutes...
when I ejaculate more than one or two times a day the semen seems to be in small amount and like water...
ejaculation increases my fatigue,headache,dizziness,sleepiness.....
I need a solution.
my life is ruined...I cant even do daily activities...I cant study at home I cant learn at school...headaches all the time...
I stopped excercising because of tired painful muscles...
the headache thing isnt something new to me...I believe the headaches began since I started masterbating many times...Iam talking about when I was 14 years old...and it evolved into something worse...and much more painful...
until this year I noticed something isnt right...
I used to think that the headaches were something natural I always ignored it...and always thought that the cause of it was lack of sleeping...
some days I sleep 6 or 7 hours and other days I sleep like 8,9 or 12 hours....I rarely sleep less than 6 hours...
but what I realized that when ever I ejaculate more and more
I feel need to sleep more hours...
I really need some help !!!!
I'm trying really hard to wrap my brain around what you just said, so please elaborate for me - masturbating leads to prostate cancer? Where on earth did you hear that from? What kind of bizarro-world research are you talking about? There is in no way, shape, or form any possibility of masturbation leading to ANY kind of cancer. Even if you thought of just the physiology of the male orgasm... the same things happen when you masturbate that happen when you have sex, and as far as I know, ejaculation in itself doesn't lead to cancer.
stop masterbating it put's to much pussure on you like "Is someone going to walk in, will someone find out, am i gay ect.?
I'm pretty old now and no longer interested in sex, but unless some of you are masturbating to excess or doing so in inappropriate places, why do you feel you have to stop? If your religion teaches it's sinful, and I know the Catholic Church does, well -- either stop doing it or get over the ridiculous guilt you've been conditioned to feel because of this perfectly normal act. Unless it's negatively interfering with your life, and I'm not referring to stupid religious teachings, there is nothing wrong with it! If it were wrong, God would not have instilled the very natural and strong desire to do it in us; children discover it at a very young age and masturbation is how we get to know our bodies sexually.
lol well put!! Right-on!!!!
Humans are funny creatures ... if it feels good, they'll do it! Your all young and in your sexual prime guys and I believe you can't stop b/c you have found a 'high' that is free, easy to achieve and simply it feels good. The more you worry about it ... the greater the problem becomes.
If any of you really wanted to stop, you would. It's hard to break any pleasurable habit - some teenagers still suck their thumb and go to therapists for help.
Two words masterbators: WILL POWER!
You guys just need motivation for stopping, a girlfriend that you really care about might help. If you don't feel any need to stop then you wont. Give it time, maybe your sex drives will settle down in the coming years.
I think most young guys experience this to greater and lesser extents. The ones that do sucessfully kick the habit tend to say that it looses it's thrill eventually and there is a desire to make love with some one other than yourself. You'll all get bored of it eventually so keep it up if you like it.
Good luck tosser's (no offense intended!)
If any of you really wanted to stop, you would. It's hard to break any pleasurable habit - some teenagers still suck their thumb and go to therapists for help.
Two words masterbators: WILL POWER!
You guys just need motivation for stopping, a girlfriend that you really care about might help. If you don't feel any need to stop then you wont. Give it time, maybe your sex drives will settle down in the coming years.
I think most young guys experience this to greater and lesser extents. The ones that do sucessfully kick the habit tend to say that it looses it's thrill eventually and there is a desire to make love with some one other than yourself. You'll all get bored of it eventually so keep it up if you like it.
Good luck tosser's (no offense intended!)
I too have been masturbating for many years and I think it eventually becomes habitual rather than necesary. It's like a smoker trying to quit. You know you shouldn't but do anyway. I seem to make it part of a daily routine and start even if not aroused or having "thoughts". I do attempt to control it but the body needs sexual release so after I hold back for awhile, I then need to and start the whole process over again. Personally I think it ***** and wish it would cahnage. Good luck, there are worse things we could do.
HELLO SIR,
I AM 24 YEARS OLD. I HAVE BEEN MASTERBATIG FOR THE PAST 6 YEARS. I STAMMER A LOT. BUT FROM THE PAST 3 YEARS WHENEVER I MASTERBATE I STAMMER A LOT. ALSO EVERY TIME AFTER I MASTERBATE MY BREATHING BECOMES IMPROPER THAT IS WHAT I FEEL. BECAUSE OF WHICH I AM NOT ABLE TO SPEAK PROPERLY. AS A RESULT OF THIS I HAVE LOST LOT OF OPPORTUNITIES IN MY CARREER, ESPECIALLY IN MY INTERVIEW, BECAUSE I STAMMERED A LOT IN THE INTERVIEW. SIR ASLO EVEN WHEN I DONOT MASTERBATE DURING NIGHT THAT IS AFTER 8 PM I AM NOT ABLE TO SPEAK PROPERLYI.E I STAMMER. CURRENTLY I AM WORKING IN A BPO WHERE I HAVE TO WORK ONLY DURING NIGHT SHIFT. AS A RESULT I AM NOT ABLE TO SAY MY IDIEAS IN THE OFFICE ENVIRONMENT. I WAS PREVIOUSLY GOING TO A CLASS TO CURE MY STAMMERRING. BUT DUE TO THE WORK PRESSURE I AM NOT ABLE TO ATTEND THE CLASSES. SIR PLEASE INFORM HOW DO I STOP MASTERBATION SO THAT I CAN SPEAK WELL AND LEAD A NORMAL LIFE AS EVERYONE, AND ACHIEVE MY GOALS.
I FEEL WILL GET REPLY TO THESE QUESTIONS, PLEASE IT IS A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH.
THANK YOU
I AM 24 YEARS OLD. I HAVE BEEN MASTERBATIG FOR THE PAST 6 YEARS. I STAMMER A LOT. BUT FROM THE PAST 3 YEARS WHENEVER I MASTERBATE I STAMMER A LOT. ALSO EVERY TIME AFTER I MASTERBATE MY BREATHING BECOMES IMPROPER THAT IS WHAT I FEEL. BECAUSE OF WHICH I AM NOT ABLE TO SPEAK PROPERLY. AS A RESULT OF THIS I HAVE LOST LOT OF OPPORTUNITIES IN MY CARREER, ESPECIALLY IN MY INTERVIEW, BECAUSE I STAMMERED A LOT IN THE INTERVIEW. SIR ASLO EVEN WHEN I DONOT MASTERBATE DURING NIGHT THAT IS AFTER 8 PM I AM NOT ABLE TO SPEAK PROPERLYI.E I STAMMER. CURRENTLY I AM WORKING IN A BPO WHERE I HAVE TO WORK ONLY DURING NIGHT SHIFT. AS A RESULT I AM NOT ABLE TO SAY MY IDIEAS IN THE OFFICE ENVIRONMENT. I WAS PREVIOUSLY GOING TO A CLASS TO CURE MY STAMMERRING. BUT DUE TO THE WORK PRESSURE I AM NOT ABLE TO ATTEND THE CLASSES. SIR PLEASE INFORM HOW DO I STOP MASTERBATION SO THAT I CAN SPEAK WELL AND LEAD A NORMAL LIFE AS EVERYONE, AND ACHIEVE MY GOALS.
I FEEL WILL GET REPLY TO THESE QUESTIONS, PLEASE IT IS A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH.
THANK YOU
i have a idea. try to get a hobby. im in the same boat. masterbated for over 8 years and now im noticeing a problem with my erections. they are not as stiff. so what im trying to do is that when i get the urges to masterbate, i go to my coin colection and try to find a coin i dont have. just try to put your self in a position where you wont masterbate.
I don't know if this will get read but... I have been masterbating since 11 yrs old also molested by the same person who tought me how to masterbate. I am now 31 and I still masterbate almost everday and sometimes up to 3 or 4 times a day. I find it hard to even keep my hand off myself when goin to bed or while on the computer. I did however stop for about 2-3 yrs during my marriage, but started right after I divorced. The divorce was not caused by the masterbation. But now I have a hard time gettin aroused and staying aroused. My "payload" is weak, thin and low. I really want to stop...
I have the same problem, I am also experiencing the same symptoms. I was so despret, i asked someone to tie my hands behind my back and blindfold me for a year so I would stop alot of bad habbits.
I admire you for your self disicipline :)
I have similar problems...same side effects +
Try you best to control your desire....get rid off any nudity object...Magazine, Dvd etc
Try day to day plan to stop it, if the environment you live in encourages you, migrate to different place, wheather it be city, country etc
Many people say it is natural including dodgy scientist and unreliable,
Thus people who claim masterbating is normal
should be really ashamed of therselves,
What i would say to them do some RESEARCH..It has many side effects plus it could lead to Prostate cancer and other illness....
Do some authentic research rather than agreeing with those liers.
Try you best to control your desire....get rid off any nudity object...Magazine, Dvd etc
Try day to day plan to stop it, if the environment you live in encourages you, migrate to different place, wheather it be city, country etc
Many people say it is natural including dodgy scientist and unreliable,
Thus people who claim masterbating is normal
should be really ashamed of therselves,
What i would say to them do some RESEARCH..It has many side effects plus it could lead to Prostate cancer and other illness....
Do some authentic research rather than agreeing with those liers.
It is very hard to kiss yourself :)
What I am saying is you should be wanting to interact, hold, smell, touch etc., a woman just because of what they are, pure pleasure and an active partner....
What I am saying is you should be wanting to interact, hold, smell, touch etc., a woman just because of what they are, pure pleasure and an active partner....
i am a 31 yo male, i've been doin it since my i was 16. Soon after i lost my virginity, my girl taught me how to do it bcuz she said we were havin too much sex. since i learned how, i feel that my desire to hav sex has been substituted with my urge to masterbate. while i still enjoy the real thing, i am much less likely to hav a relationship bcuz its so much easier just to pleasure myself. i feel like i am missing out. i hav not had great sex for a long time. i love 2 to it and at the same time i wish i never started...
Do you bathe regularly and use deodorant? There is no way that masturbation can cause a smell, unless you sweat a lot while doing it, do not clean all of the ejaculate off, and do not shower afterwards. This smell is all in your head. If people tell you that you stink, it is because of body odor or the cologne/aftershave you use.
Masturbation is totally normal. Were you raised as a catholic, or a protestant, with devoted attendance at church? Did someone discover you masturbating at a younger age, like your mother?
These symptoms you list could be psychosomatic and very real for you. Give yourself a break fellow! Learn to laugh at your idiosyncrasies. Masturbation is only bad if you actually damage your penis from abusive handling.
Some, or probably very many people have a hard time relieving their sexual tension, or finding gratifying sexual relief. You can become obsessed with having the perfect orgasm. You may be in search of a constant orgasm.
You are a man dude. We have primordial urges that are powerful. Some people are very twisted. If your fantasies are what is bothering you, then that is a different situation altogether. If any involve under aged people or harming someone, then you need to find a psychiatrist and tell them the truth asap. Don't waste your or their time. Tell the truth immediately. What you say to them is totally and legally confidential, unless you have hurt someone.
Good luck in finding peace within yourself. Achieve something in your life and build up your self esteem. Take charge of your life and emotions!
Masturbation is totally normal. Were you raised as a catholic, or a protestant, with devoted attendance at church? Did someone discover you masturbating at a younger age, like your mother?
These symptoms you list could be psychosomatic and very real for you. Give yourself a break fellow! Learn to laugh at your idiosyncrasies. Masturbation is only bad if you actually damage your penis from abusive handling.
Some, or probably very many people have a hard time relieving their sexual tension, or finding gratifying sexual relief. You can become obsessed with having the perfect orgasm. You may be in search of a constant orgasm.
You are a man dude. We have primordial urges that are powerful. Some people are very twisted. If your fantasies are what is bothering you, then that is a different situation altogether. If any involve under aged people or harming someone, then you need to find a psychiatrist and tell them the truth asap. Don't waste your or their time. Tell the truth immediately. What you say to them is totally and legally confidential, unless you have hurt someone.
Good luck in finding peace within yourself. Achieve something in your life and build up your self esteem. Take charge of your life and emotions!
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