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masterbating, how do i stop

I can't stop masterbating. I've been doing it since i was 15 and am in my mid twenties now. Thats almost 10 years now i've been trying in vain to quit. I ve stopped for short period, about a month, but i always do it again even when i had a girlfreind. Its like i cant get enough. People say that materbating is healthy, well in my case that doesnt hold true. It causes sooo many problems. After i first started masterbating, when i was 15 i noticed an odor about me. I thougt it was just me till people started to tell me i stink. I also am very shaky and often have muscle spasms. Sometimes my head will jerk one way or another with out my control. If i drink water my mouth will constantly produce saliva. when i wake up in the morning my stomach hurts and i feel nauseous. If i drink too many liquids i will have headaches. It also becomes harder for me to breathe through my nose. And i cant smell things as well. I also get really sleepy and my muscles become weaker. I cant do as many situps or pushups. My face becomes very oily and i sweat alot more. I also am very forgetful. My mind becomes slower. There is also a cloudy substance in my urine. My palms  are also sweaty

During the times i stopped all these symtoms went away, but returned once i started back. This has been the case every time. When i say masterbate i mean i actually ejaculate every time. The symtoms havent been as bad when i didnt ejaculate.

Since i have a bad odor only a few people will be around me. Theres also been a few brave people who told me i need to stop. This i know but i just cant. It interferes with school and my social life. I have no freinds and just want to stay in my room so people can breathe fresh air. Wen i go to a basketball game some people actually say i stink and leave. I just want to be normaly. I even treid using acohol and weed to stop but nothing works. I also tried sleeping in pants. I dont want to drink and i certainly hate smoking. I want to be able to go out to eat and drink water with no fear of stinking. Girls tell me i look good but they dont want to be around me because of my odor. I love women but cant have them. I havent slept with a woman since june 2001. THATS SAD!!

THIS IS NOT A JOKE! I hate myself and sometimes get depressed. It is very hard being like this. can u please tell me how to stop this. Do i have a weak mind since i cant stop.
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I too have been masturbating for many years and I think it eventually becomes habitual rather than necesary.  It's like a smoker trying to quit.  You know you shouldn't but do anyway.  I seem to make it part of a daily routine and start even if not aroused or having "thoughts".  I do attempt to control it but the body needs sexual release so after I hold back for awhile, I then need to and start the whole process over again.  Personally I think it ***** and wish it would cahnage.  Good luck, there are worse things we could do.
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I have tried stopped because I have premature ejeculation, I don't know if stopping will help me. I found it very difficult to stop even for a short period of time, like a week.
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can someone help me out ? !!!

Iam suffering from:

1)constant headaches.

2)heavy muscles and spasms,pain....head,neck,shoulders and other...

3)dizziness.

4)need to sleep all the time doesnt matter how much i sleep i always feel sleepy and tired.

5)changes in my personality, my friends are getting strange thoughts about me thinking iam crazy or weird or etc...

6)lack of concentration....i was thought to have ADD/ADHD...
Iam sure its not my problem cause I did TOVA test...

7)poor/short-term memory

8)depression with no reason.

9)stress causes tremor to hands,arms,head....
the tremor excessively increases when i do physical exercises.
for example when i used to work out at the gym many of my friends noticed the tremor....!
many people notice iam the kind of a very nervous guy...!
when iam in stress, most of my time i dont set, I walk and walk fast and sometimes walking and eating nervously,confused, I think too much and analyze things...Iam a kind of a thinker....
sometimes after stress I feel I need to run...so I start running like for 30 minutes or more and after i finish I feel the tremor almost gone but after few minutes it comes back....!
afterall the tremor isnt really affecting my life.....
but I think my tired muscles increased the tremor.....

10)Iam hyperactive...when Iam in extacy I feel extreme hyperactivity and can imagine and analyze things just like einstein, although I believe lack of concentration and muscular pain causes me somekind of stupidity...

11)I have TMJ pain...when I eat I feel joint pain,earaching...
but the problem isnt only the TMJ my whole body muscles are tired...Iam maybe a bruxer....I was checked by a dentist and
Iam using nightguard and its not relieving the pain....

Iam 18 years old.
I was checked by many doctors for many health problems...
CT scan was done,sinuses and brain all ok...
blood test was done,i had no problems...
no problems in the eyes...i was checked by a neurologist...
I used to set for many many hours on my computer few years ago...

-I started masterbating when I was 12 years old.
-Iam very addicted to masterbation and sex.
-everytime I masterbate I ejaculate.
-I masterbate everyday but Iam trying to stop these days...
still Iam obsessed to masterbation...

when I used to be 13 or 14 years old I remember everyday I used to masterbate 3 or 4 times as an average...
I remember few days I used to masterbate like 6 times and
sometimes more...few days I reached 10 times...and then I got addicted to it...
I had sex many times with diffirent teens....
although I dont have pleasure with real sex...masterbating
gives me much more pleasure....and everytime i had sex I didnt
ejaculate..only one time when I had sex for 30 minutes until I ejaculated...but when I masterbate I ejaculate in few minutes...
when I ejaculate more than one or two times a day the semen seems to be in small amount and like water...
ejaculation increases my  fatigue,headache,dizziness,sleepiness.....

I need a solution.

my life is ruined...I cant even do daily activities...I cant study at home I cant learn at school...headaches all the time...
I stopped excercising because of tired painful muscles...
the headache thing isnt something new to me...I believe the headaches began since I started masterbating many times...Iam talking about when I was 14 years old...and it evolved into something worse...and much more painful...
until this year I noticed something isnt right...
I used to think that the headaches were something natural I always ignored it...and always thought that the cause of it was lack of sleeping...
some days I sleep 6 or 7 hours and other days I sleep like 8,9 or 12 hours....I rarely sleep less than 6 hours...
but what I realized that when ever I ejaculate more and more
I feel need to sleep more hours...



I really need some help !!!!





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I had someone help but this is how I stopped masturbating and looking at porn.

I kept a journal of all the times a day I wished to masturbate or look at porn. I would write down a brief description of the desire and the action taken to try to ignore/resist it. Being that I believe the Word of God, my actions taken to ignore/resist were usually reading the bible or praying (I did not pray that the temptation would be taken away, I prayed that I would be strong enough to overcome it).

At the end of each day I would show the journal to the other person and briefly talk about what I logged in the journal and evaluate my actions.

On days I messed up, we would talk about why and what else could have been done.

After 40 days or so I was pleased to say that I no longer masturbated and neither did I look at porn.

Over the years since upkeep has been necessary, but the difference in my life is great. I had never felt so confident and I also noticed improvements in many areas of my life that were unexpected.

Was it worth it? Without a doubt, YES!!!!
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Perhaps this might help -

http://www.flirt4free.com
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Is it true that if you stop masterbation for a very long time that your sex drive (libido) and sexual health will increase alot? please reply.
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