When your mother sends the signal she needs to be in the hospital, that is what you have to listen too. She seems to be eligible for hosptialization paid for by public sources, so that is where you should turn. I would suggest starting with the social worker who knows her, because she will know the resources in your community and how to make it happen. In addition to hospitals, there are partial hospitals, or recovery programs for outpatients...I would ask the s.w. about those optins as well.
I am very sorry to hear about your Mother, I will keep you in my prayers but I did wantto offer what knowledge I have of getting someone that does not even want to go into amental hospital, the steps you can take, without her having any choice !
You take that letter that she wrote to whomever it was she wrote it too, to a magistrate judge (I think) or go to the courthouse and ask, show the judge the letter that you Mother worte about hurting herself, also take along your siblings or your Mothers as well with you ! Tell the judge she is dangerous to herself and the judge, if he chooses can admit her to a mental facility without her permission and she cannot get out until the judge says that she can !
IT IS CALLED TOUGH LOVE, but it is better than living without your Mother. My Mother never ever drank, doped or smoked pot but she did pass away 1 1/2 years ago and " I PERSONALLY : would DO ANYTHING THAT I COULD to save my MOTHERS LIFE, YOU CAN DO THE SAME IF YOUR MOM IS THREATENING TO KILL HERSELF !
Here in the USA, State of Georgia we have what are called Goverment funded hospitals & MENTAL HOPITALS, that CANNOT REFUSE YOU IF YOU HAVE NO MEANS TO PAY ! EVEN IF YOU GET A BILL, HEY THERE IS NO DEBTORS PRISION ! IT MIGHT GO ON YOUR MOTHERS CREDIT IF THEY DO NOT WRITE THE BILL OFF .BUT WHO CARES, AS LONG AS YOU SAVE YOUR MOM ! ALSO I THINK IF THE JUDGE PUTS HER IN, THE STATE WILL PAY HER BILL ANYWAY ! If you do not want to do this, go to the emergency room,without telling your Mom, tell the nurse to tell the doctor she is sucudial and that is an automatic 1013, the Sheriff will come to the ERoom and take her to the hospital, bad news, she can leave soon. If the judge admits her, she cannot leave until the Doctors and judge agress she is safe to be released !
I HAD TO DO THIS TO A LIFETIME GIRLFRIEND OF MINE, SINCE JUNIOR HIGH SCHOOL ! She stayed in a mental hospital for 4 years and a half way house for 6 years and she still needs to go back ! But now it is up to her husband.
You can email me at Suzanne_***@**** if you have any questions or just need a dry shoulder to cry on or any more advise. I AM HERE !
GOOD LUCK & MANY PRAYERS,