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[Patriciaaa02]

So I have an appointment tomorrow with my Obgyn to see if I have postpartum depression and my bf is coming with me I kind of don't want him there are they going to let him in with me or is it private ? He's concerned and wants to be there but idk if i will be able to express myself good in front of him bc he's part of my problems he's a great man but there's things that just upset me about him

[LidAnnMor5107]

I guess that all depends on your doctor. I know my doctor lets my boyfriend in w. me every visit. if you don't want him in the room consider asking him if he'll sit this one out. Or you can call your doctor in advance & let them know you don't want anyone in the room w. you stopping you from fully expressing yourself. But also, this could be a good way to get everything off your chest to him. If there are things that bother you, you should tell him. It's like I tell my boyfriend all the time "If I'm doing something you don't like, tell me. I'm not gonna stop doing what ever bothers you w. out knowing it bothers you" (He likes to keep everything to himself). he won't ever know he's bothering you w. those things & won't stop doing them because he doesn't know.

[DrVivian]

Just have him wait in the waiting room. And please see a psychiatrist. I would not attempt to deliver your baby even though I've delivered plenty as a student. Psychiatry is a specialty, best practiced by psychiatrists. It's worth the co-pay. Good luck.

[Paxiled]

Postpartum depression is a hormone condition.  Psychiatrists virtually never will consider your hormone situation.  I think it's good to see someone who does know about hormones first, because if you see a psychiatrist you will get put on a drug for depression, that's what they do, but it won't help your hormones any.  If it is hormonal, it is temporary, but if you're put on an antidepressant, it may be a long time before you're able to stop taking it.  So again, it's good to exhaust physiological causes before deciding something is a mental disorder.  As for your boyfriend, this is up to you -- it's totally your decision.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  That post partum appointment is really important. Ob/gyns are trained to ask specific questions to help determine if you are suffering post partum or not.  They look for it and when detected, they usually give you next steps like seeing a psychiatrist or a psychologist.  No new mom should suffer this type of depression and anxiety as being a mama is hard enough!  There are doctors in my area that specialize in both post partum as well as premenstrual dysphoric disorder and all other mental health issues that are particular to being a woman.  Medication is often involved in treatment but often on a different regimen than your traditional depressed patient.  So, it's important to work with someone who understands these woman's issues and can treat to the best outcome for you.

I agree that leaving your boyfriend in the waiting room is important.  You can tell him that you are getting a full exam.  Ask him to wait.  You can even call ahead and tell the receptionist that you want to see the doctor alone--  and see if they can discreetly help you direct him to stay in the waiting area.  

Are there issues with your boyfriend?  

Anyway, wishing you all the best and stay in touch with us to let us know how you are doing.  peace and hugs

[Patriciaaa02]

Thank u all for the replies I ended up going to the doctor alone and got prescribed Zoloft but I haven't taken them bc I'm scare of the side effects I read online n I was referred to go to therapy I went this week for the first time and idk if I'm seeing a pyschatrist or a psychologist but I was told I had depression before I got pregnant n my pregnancy just knocked it up I had all kinds of trouble during my pregnancy n delivery all that made me depress and plus my personal problems & my bf is going to receive therapy with me