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I have been with you for a while now. I feel that I am not getting better. today was a bad day. I cant seem to pull myself together. I am quitting medhelp. I will miss all of my sweet friends, I just don't feel like talking any more. im just so tired and don't want to even think about what I am going through. thanks for being there for me. good luck to all of you and the best of health. I don't know what to do. good luck.
she has really had a rough life. when she was a teen in school. she was on the drill team. they performed at football games and in competition. they had a car wash to earn money for a trip. she tripped and damaged her front teeth. they capped her teeth but it would never stay fixed. she just now got to where she had the money to fix her teeth. she has the most beautiful smile. all her life her teeth she always covered her mouth if my mom had of known this. she would have had her teeth fixed. she had all her top teeth removed. her last baby was born in October he is 6 our baby was born in October he is 6 and my nieces other daughter had her boy in the same October he is 6 too. with 3 weeks we had 3 new boys to our family. I know in my heart that she will always will love me. she always has. the man that raised them was not there birth father. but he was a wonderful dad. just the 2 older girls. the 2 boys she had when the girls were in high school . were his. he was always special to me and my mom. he finally got a divorce. she cheated on him with her daughters boy friend. we all for gave her but she crushed her husband. he became an alcoholic. she ruined his life. the oldest boy goes and sees his dad all the time. I am glad. I better quit talking I will get in trouble again. your friend mandy876
It is nice that your niece's daughter still keeps in touch with you and sends you pictures.
It is a shame about the babies though.
Best wishes.
It is a shame about the babies though.
Best wishes.
I wrote you a whole bunch of things my program went off. I will start over. I have always had a hard time going to sleep. I hate night that is when I miss my hubby most. I keep the tv on all the time. I play games and get on medhelp. go to e mail and write a note for my other nieces daughter. she sends me pictures and how her love life is going. which normally bad. she has had 5 babies. one baby died he strangled on his vomit. another was hurt down there by her boy friend. he went to jail. but they took the baby away from her. her first 2 her ex and his girl raise them. she has them most weekends. her daughter wrote her the sweetest letter on how proud she was for being such a good mom even though she had financial problems, she is sweeter to me than any one else. love mandy876
I find if I cannot sleep, I just get up and make a hot drink of green tea with fresh lemon juice and honey.
If you cannot drop off to sleep, just get out of bed and do something, come on MedHelp, read a book. Then when you feel like you are tired, go back to bed.
Sometimes I cannot sleep because I feel so hot that I come down and sit naked at the computer and when I start to feel cold and can't keep my head up, I go back to bed.
Don't watch any thrillers or horror films or anything that puts you on edge before bedtime.
You could even have a relaxing bath with some lavender oil to help you relax in the evening before retiring to bed.
Best wishes.
If you cannot drop off to sleep, just get out of bed and do something, come on MedHelp, read a book. Then when you feel like you are tired, go back to bed.
Sometimes I cannot sleep because I feel so hot that I come down and sit naked at the computer and when I start to feel cold and can't keep my head up, I go back to bed.
Don't watch any thrillers or horror films or anything that puts you on edge before bedtime.
You could even have a relaxing bath with some lavender oil to help you relax in the evening before retiring to bed.
Best wishes.
she is my ex neighbor. he is home until he goes next week to see a heart specialist. she can not drive any more she gets confused. a couple of years we were going to get our mammograms. we made a turn an she went on the wrong side of the road. she had to turn around with on coming traffic. she ran over the curb a couple. kind of scared me. she has a daughter that is a teacher. she is out of school now she will be taking her. they are a very close family. I like to never of gone to sleep last night it was around 3am I had taken a pain pill a muscle relaxer and a nerve pill. it worked in about an hour. I can not relax. sometimes I will realize I am not relaxing. it is weird. thank you for being here for me. you do help me. your friend love mandy876
Yes, you are right that we are all going to die. That is a fact.
What matters is how you live your life.
God has left you because you ARE needed here on this earth. You may not thinks so, but you are helping others.
You are helping your niece for a start. And you also give people support on this MedHelp. You did write in another forum about the bad things that happened to your niece and her children. Where would she have ended up if you were not there for her?
You may feel lonely, we all feel lonely from time to time even with a houseful of people. Lonely is a state of mind. Your mind at the moment is on the negative side.
You did say in the other forum and here that you are seeing your doctor on Monday. You must keep that appointment and make yourself go to see him. I know how you feel, I have to force myself to go to see the doctor too.
Do not waste the appointment. Doctors do not have magic wands to wave to make us feel young and well again, but they have the knowledge with regard to medicines that can make things a little less uncomfortable for us.
May be you could go with your neighbour one day and visit her husband in hospital with her. She will be needing some support too, and this is an opportunity for you to help her and yourself.
Best wishes.
What matters is how you live your life.
God has left you because you ARE needed here on this earth. You may not thinks so, but you are helping others.
You are helping your niece for a start. And you also give people support on this MedHelp. You did write in another forum about the bad things that happened to your niece and her children. Where would she have ended up if you were not there for her?
You may feel lonely, we all feel lonely from time to time even with a houseful of people. Lonely is a state of mind. Your mind at the moment is on the negative side.
You did say in the other forum and here that you are seeing your doctor on Monday. You must keep that appointment and make yourself go to see him. I know how you feel, I have to force myself to go to see the doctor too.
Do not waste the appointment. Doctors do not have magic wands to wave to make us feel young and well again, but they have the knowledge with regard to medicines that can make things a little less uncomfortable for us.
May be you could go with your neighbour one day and visit her husband in hospital with her. She will be needing some support too, and this is an opportunity for you to help her and yourself.
Best wishes.
it does not matter no one cares if I live or die. I am lonely. my friends are dead or moved away. my used to be my next door neighbor. we still keep in touch not as much as we used to. her husband has been in the hospital 2 days. they found that he has a blockage in his neck. he is going to a heart doctor next week. doesn't sound good. they have each other. no one calls except a phone solicitor. I guess I can talk to them. my niece never feels good and does not want to talk much. she talks to every one else. I have an appointment Monday. but why should I go.is that or anything going to make me happy? if I get well I will still have the same problems. we are all going to die. god will take us when it wants us. why waste all that money and still feel the same way. mandy876
A grown cat does not need much attention. That kitten was troubled, but any kitten will take more energy from you. So I still think that a cat would be some good companionship for you.
People with "sooo many problems" do need to see doctors. I don't know why you won't even go to your doctor. It's just plain self destructive.
People with "sooo many problems" do need to see doctors. I don't know why you won't even go to your doctor. It's just plain self destructive.
I know the kitten was playing he kept crying and I picked him up and laid him on a real soft cover. he laid real still. I talked real soft to him and he watched me for a while then I rubbed between his eyes. he went sound asleep. if I left the room for anything he would run from my chair to the sofa and if he did not seem he would start crying. I walked in the room he came running. I really was growing to love him. I am too old. I was worn out by the end of the day. wish I could be a better person. no need in me seeing the doctor I have soooomany problems it would not do any good. I am tired why want god just take me. I am so tird. love mandy876
I agree with everything Sara says.
Mandy it is your car. If you can't afford insurance, or to keep the car, then sell it. It is YOUR car not theirs. When you do sell the car, make sure you do not give any of them any of YOUR money.
Tough on them if they do not have the convenience of using someone else's car. There is always public transport! They will continue to use you, because you let them. You have to be firm and stand up for yourself. Say no and mean it.
You owe them absolutely nothing.
With regard to the kitten, he was just playing with your wrist band. You did the right thing in taking him back. So do not worry about that.
Best wishes.
Mandy it is your car. If you can't afford insurance, or to keep the car, then sell it. It is YOUR car not theirs. When you do sell the car, make sure you do not give any of them any of YOUR money.
Tough on them if they do not have the convenience of using someone else's car. There is always public transport! They will continue to use you, because you let them. You have to be firm and stand up for yourself. Say no and mean it.
You owe them absolutely nothing.
With regard to the kitten, he was just playing with your wrist band. You did the right thing in taking him back. So do not worry about that.
Best wishes.
Mandy,
If you don't want to be taken advantage of, then you need to put limits on what you do. If the car is still in your name, you should take it back. Otherwise if there is any major accident, YOU can be sued for everything that you have. You also will be liable for any parking tickets which can add up to thousands of dollars with fines.
Then there is an easy solution to the problem of your niece's daughter not having a car. Her man can get a job. Or her man can watch the children while your niece's daughter gets a job. It's that simple. Don't you pay the car insurance or it is all your fault that people use you.
I hear you complaining a lot about people using you. You can just STOP getting taken advantage of.
Sara
If you don't want to be taken advantage of, then you need to put limits on what you do. If the car is still in your name, you should take it back. Otherwise if there is any major accident, YOU can be sued for everything that you have. You also will be liable for any parking tickets which can add up to thousands of dollars with fines.
Then there is an easy solution to the problem of your niece's daughter not having a car. Her man can get a job. Or her man can watch the children while your niece's daughter gets a job. It's that simple. Don't you pay the car insurance or it is all your fault that people use you.
I hear you complaining a lot about people using you. You can just STOP getting taken advantage of.
Sara
we took him back. he was a hand full. he did curl up in my lap and got a good nap. but he saw my medical alert bracelet and stuck his claws on both side on my arm and grabed hold of my bracelet and would no let go. it was hurting. we decided we had got rid of all our older cats and would have to buy everything. it would add up. we are going to try to go to the coast I am not sure if either one of us feels like taking a trip. would like to get away for a while and try to relax. my nieces daughter is packing up her things they are being evicted because her man will not get a job. she has a 7 and a 6 month old. I told her her car insurance is due next month. and she told me it was still in my name she did not have the money. I cant afford to pay everyones bills. am I being ysed. I am so tired. mandy876
You did the right thing taking the kitten back.
Kittens should not be removed from their mother before 6 weeks of age.
I was looking after a queen that gave birth to 4 kittens on 10 April.
They were all sold after 6 weeks of age
One young lady came to pick a black and white kitten from me and she held it and it was very comfortable with her, it started to lick itself and to lick her thumb. I had never seen anything like that before, they were definitely suited to each other, the kitten was so comfortable with her.
When you go to choose any animal, hold it and see how you are with the animal and the animal with you, before you decide to keep it.
With a cat, you need one that is toilet trained, has already been wormed and treated for fleas.
When kittens cry, that usually means they want something or are not happy.
Looking after any animal takes some time and energy.
Best wishes.
Kittens should not be removed from their mother before 6 weeks of age.
I was looking after a queen that gave birth to 4 kittens on 10 April.
They were all sold after 6 weeks of age
One young lady came to pick a black and white kitten from me and she held it and it was very comfortable with her, it started to lick itself and to lick her thumb. I had never seen anything like that before, they were definitely suited to each other, the kitten was so comfortable with her.
When you go to choose any animal, hold it and see how you are with the animal and the animal with you, before you decide to keep it.
With a cat, you need one that is toilet trained, has already been wormed and treated for fleas.
When kittens cry, that usually means they want something or are not happy.
Looking after any animal takes some time and energy.
Best wishes.
Mandy, I think that you did the right thing. It sounded to me from what you had said about the kitten earlier that it had been taken away from his/her mother too soon. I had a kitten like that. They are never the same. Kittens shouldn't cry so much. They should naturally use a litter box.
I think that you need a different kitten or a cat. Most of my kittens have needed a lot of vet visits, but you may be up to it. And you never know their personalities until they are grown up. I had the cutest kitten which turned into a cat that would suddenly bite and claw for no reason as it was an adult. It also viciously attacked our other cats. I had to take him to the humane society. Someone else did adopt him. I kept track of it. He was a pretty cat. Now I need to get at least one other cat because there are 2 of them and one is dying from kidney failure. The other one will be too lonely. I am planning to get a grown cat, hopefully a young one. But kittens are so cute. You may want all the playfulness that they do which can be a riot. I would be sure to get another cat or kitten though. Good luck. Sara
I think that you need a different kitten or a cat. Most of my kittens have needed a lot of vet visits, but you may be up to it. And you never know their personalities until they are grown up. I had the cutest kitten which turned into a cat that would suddenly bite and claw for no reason as it was an adult. It also viciously attacked our other cats. I had to take him to the humane society. Someone else did adopt him. I kept track of it. He was a pretty cat. Now I need to get at least one other cat because there are 2 of them and one is dying from kidney failure. The other one will be too lonely. I am planning to get a grown cat, hopefully a young one. But kittens are so cute. You may want all the playfulness that they do which can be a riot. I would be sure to get another cat or kitten though. Good luck. Sara
they were using a litter box at the adoption center, I wanted the mama. she was so sweet. we decided to take arby back to be with his siblings. he was clawing up the new couch. he cried until I came back into the room. he jumped on me and tried to eat my med bracelet. it was so hard to take him back. but I know he is so cute he will find a good home. when we took him back petco had just left by the rescue squad to take them to petco. he was all alone. he said he would call them to come back and get him. he said we had 30 days if we changed our minds. I don't know if we did the right thing. we kept watching to see iff he used the litter box. we kept putting him in it. but he jumped right. then she noticed it smelled behind her chair that is where he was using the carpet. we moved the litter box behind her chair and immediately started using it. we are too old for such an active kitten. he was all over the place crying. he kept running back to see if I was there. I have been upset but it was a lot. mandy876
That's nice about your Arby.
Make sure your feed him on cat food that is specifically made for kittens and kitten milk.
If he is still young, other foods can upset his stomach and he could get the diarrhea. Make sure you deworm him, every 2 weeks is usually the treatment for worming kittens until a certain age. The same for fleas.
If he is not trained to use his toilet tray, you will need to encourage him to use that too.
Do you know how old he is and his birthday?
Best wishes.
Make sure your feed him on cat food that is specifically made for kittens and kitten milk.
If he is still young, other foods can upset his stomach and he could get the diarrhea. Make sure you deworm him, every 2 weeks is usually the treatment for worming kittens until a certain age. The same for fleas.
If he is not trained to use his toilet tray, you will need to encourage him to use that too.
Do you know how old he is and his birthday?
Best wishes.
Aw! This is such a sweet story. It sounds like your new little guy is already getting very attached to you. Kittens can be a handful at first. So, hang in there with him. He will grow fast and start to settle down. He's still getting used to be away from his siblings and being in a new home. It's going to work out.
Ha ha! You named him Arby? That's great. I hope you can post a picture of him soon. He sounds like a cutie. Sorry if I misunderstood. Is he black and white?
Ha ha! You named him Arby? That's great. I hope you can post a picture of him soon. He sounds like a cutie. Sorry if I misunderstood. Is he black and white?
we got the kitten yesterday. he is little. we adopted him from the animal shelter. they had got a momma and she gave birth to 8 kittens. when we went in there were some people in there wanting a kitten. we wanted the black and white one that kept slapping out fingers. the kennel man came back and said they wanted both the black and white is one was a female. they were both males. they took one and we adopted the other. he has been crying ever since. today for the first time I had a real soft blanket and I laid him in my lap. and he fell sound a sleep if I moved my hand he would hold on tighter. but he got frisky and started clawing on everything and climbing omn everything. my niece is having second thoughts. he is a hand full' he would not eat anything til she started eating an arby sandwich. he started starring at her and crying. she gave him some roast. he loved it wanted it all. we called him arby. mandy876
Glad that you're getting a kitten. What fun that will be, because they love to play at that age. Even following a string gives them loads of fun. And the cat will give you much companionship.
It doesn't sound like you are on an adequate dose of Effexor. You don't say what your current dose is. Have you told your doctor that you are still depressed, even though you've gotten some better from taking it? It would seem like the doctor would want to increase it. Let me know about that. Also let me know what the doctor is giving you for your headaches and your nausea.
Sara
It doesn't sound like you are on an adequate dose of Effexor. You don't say what your current dose is. Have you told your doctor that you are still depressed, even though you've gotten some better from taking it? It would seem like the doctor would want to increase it. Let me know about that. Also let me know what the doctor is giving you for your headaches and your nausea.
Sara
Thank you Mandy.
Unfortunately in the UK we cannot purchase antidepressants and lots of medications without a doctor's prescription.
Glad to hear that you taking your medication and not going to stop taking them.
How wonderful that you will be having a little kitten. Let us all know what he/she is like.
Don't worry about not crying. I think by the sound of it that you cried yourself dry with crying all week. Crying is a good way of releasing bottled up problems - plus the fact it helps to clean the eyes.
Everyone shows grief in different ways.
Let us know how you get on with your kitten.
Best wishes.
Unfortunately in the UK we cannot purchase antidepressants and lots of medications without a doctor's prescription.
Glad to hear that you taking your medication and not going to stop taking them.
How wonderful that you will be having a little kitten. Let us all know what he/she is like.
Don't worry about not crying. I think by the sound of it that you cried yourself dry with crying all week. Crying is a good way of releasing bottled up problems - plus the fact it helps to clean the eyes.
Everyone shows grief in different ways.
Let us know how you get on with your kitten.
Best wishes.
I'm so glad to hear you're getting a kitten. There are so many out there that need a good loving home. I think this kitten is going to bring you a lot of happiness. Will you post pictures of your new kitty? I can't wait to see it.
get the generic brand venlafaxine HCL ER. I know these will be cheaper. my insurance will cover most of the cost of mine. thank goodness. thee abilify is a enhancement for the depression meds. today my niece was just standing In the hall I asked her what was wrong she said she was dizzy. it is really strange we are both really dizzy. we have no gas in the house it is total electric. could it be something in the house? she is still having trouble with one o her arms the other arm is healed. it should have healed by now. I will not go off the Effexor I was crying and no eating and did not want to even try to live. it stopped the crying. but it did keep my emotions down. my childhood friend died. I could not cry. I did care. it was so strange it was like it was someone else not me. for some reason I have cried nearly all last week. we are going tomorrow to get a kitten.
Sounds pretty good to me. I want some.
I will mention Effexor to my doctor when I see him next time. It would definitely be worth trying them if they help and ease the pains.
The drugs I am on are OK, but I am not completely well. It could be that it is not available in the UK. Or it could be just too expensive and they try us on the cheapest drugs first.
I definitely need something stronger to help with my pains. I have been feeling so dreadful today and dizzy and aching all over, that I even took one Diazepam and had a sleep in the afternoon.
Still feel dizzy, but I think it is to do with my stomach. It is either my antibiotic is having an effect, or the too many throat lozenges that I am consuming, or a different virus.
Best wishes.
I will mention Effexor to my doctor when I see him next time. It would definitely be worth trying them if they help and ease the pains.
The drugs I am on are OK, but I am not completely well. It could be that it is not available in the UK. Or it could be just too expensive and they try us on the cheapest drugs first.
I definitely need something stronger to help with my pains. I have been feeling so dreadful today and dizzy and aching all over, that I even took one Diazepam and had a sleep in the afternoon.
Still feel dizzy, but I think it is to do with my stomach. It is either my antibiotic is having an effect, or the too many throat lozenges that I am consuming, or a different virus.
Best wishes.
No problem. I also suffer from hypertension and need medication for that. So unless the website mentioned that and your hypertension is through the roof, I wouldn't think that it would be a problem for you. My mother also had hypertension with taking it. But Effexor might not be the best first choice for you. Some people have difficulty going off of it. Not me and my friends who have all gone off of it. But if you go off of it very gradually, it shouldn't be a problem. Most of the complaints are from people who are cutting their doses in half over night. Not smart. Now I'm on it for life, since I have a long history of depression and this was the only one that helped me. And to bring me out of a nearly suicidal depression from my severe pain, with just raising it.. .in my eyes, this Effexor is a miracle drug!! I truly didn't think that ANY drug could help me since it was so situational. And the increase did help my pain some as well. Wish you the best. Sara
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I also have been on Effexor and had to raise it when my depression got terrible, which cleared it up. Now I am on its upgraded version, Pristiq. But I know that I need to take it for the rest of my life. I feel for you. I know it is very hard. But I really hope that you can find some more peace in your life. Sara