Affair....=((

[confusedandlost]

hey everyone.. pls help me... i've been crying the whole nite...
i come from a very happy family...
my parents seem like the pair made in heaven...
my aunt loves me and my mother alot....she treats me sooo well...
i felt her love was real..
my only close kins are my parents,my sister,my aunt and my grandpa.

last nite i came across emails my dad sent to my aunt...
they were exchanging flirty messages to each other....
=(
didnt my aunt always say she loves me..?
she treats my mother very well and vice versa...
i cant believe the person my dad is having an affair with is my aunt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i have no one to confide in...
usually my aunt is there to solve probs for me....
but now, what do i do? =(

i feel sooo bad for my mum....
i really dunno how to face my dad...
i hate him for betraying our trust...
i hate my aunt for doing this to us.....

i feel like dying..my happy family was just in my dreams...


pls help me.... ='(

[confusedandlost]

the proof is in the emails.. which i dun even have the courage to see again, because it hurts so much..
im trying very hard not to think abt it, but everythg i do, i see them tgt in my mind..
sigh...
thanks for your advice..i'll keep that in mind..
and appreciate the time u take to ans my qn..

[mammo]

You family still loves you very much, this will never change.  The real victim is your mother.  There is no excuse for this type of behavior, ever.  I would simply take the letters to your dad, and walk away.  Once he sees that you know, he may realize what he's doing and stop out of fear of losing your mom and losing your respect. Give him time to make things right with your mom.  Your Aunt and he are both wrong here, but I'm sure once he knows that you know, things will change.  You may never look at your aunt in the same way again, she was wrong in her actions.  The same with your dad.  If he approaches you about the letters let him know how disappointed you are in him and your Aunt, and that you mom is the victim.  You're in a very delicate, difficult situation here.  Hopefully your dad and Aunt will stop this behavior and your mother need never know.  I wish you all the best, I know this is so difficult for you.

[confusedandlost]

thanks for ur input... feeling a little better..
i saw that he they called each other 'dear' and stuff like 'miss u alotalotalotalot'
and even pics of them together..=(
i dunno how to confront him.. i dun even know how to look at him..
the people closest to me betrayed my trust in them..
im really afraid i'd go crazy just thinking abt this..=(

[kimdavis5]

I understand you feel bad. People are only human tho and remember you are still loved by all these people.  Most people don't intend to hurt others by their actions.  People feel undesireable sometimes and reach out inappropriately to reassure their ego that they are still somewhat young and sexually appealing.  If the emails were only flirts don't assume.  If you feel sure of what you know - confront your father.  This is hurtful but not worth shattering an entire family over.  Try to keep things in perspective.  No one is dying.  You can talk to your family.  People make mistakes.  Relationships can be salvaged and repaired over time.  Be kind to yourself above all and try to focus on your interests.