Betrayal of Trust and Feelings of Abandonment

[ettebette]

I have written previously about hurt and sadness.  It has progressesd to a full-blown betrayal of trust and feelings of abandoment by a friend I so trusted and cared about.  I thought we were kindred spirits.  We have never met nor talked on the phone (his choice), but we have corresponded through e-mail and instant messaging.  I am beside myself with grief and disillusion.  If I could only speak with him to find out from his end why he stopped writing cold turkey, without any explanation.  We had a beautiful friendship.  I know I don't deserve to be treated that shabbily by anyone, and I never thought it would him.  Since I can't speak to him, the only way I can communicate my feelings is through e-mail, and he's not responding to them.  I feel totally helpless.

Ellen

[ettebette]

Hi, Mary.  Thank you for your kind words and support.  Both of us are married, but we had a beautiful friendship, or so I thought.  We've known each other a year.  We met a year ago yesterday on Medhelp.  I don't think anything's happened to him, and I have no idea why he would stop writing cold turkey.  I discovered he's on a social website to meet people, so maybe he's looking for other lonely women.  The not knowing hurts incredibly.  We really were very close.  To top things off, I'm weaning off of Effexor XR, and am replacing it with Sevalla to hopefully help my Fibromyalgia.  It's also used for depression.  What a time to be weaning off of an antidepressant, with all its unpleasant side effects.  Let's keep in touch.  Thanks, again.

Ellen

[Mary61]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear about the pain you are in.  Could it be possible that something maybe happened to him.  Can you think of any reason why he wouldn't talk to you anymore.  Think of your last conversation and see if there was anything said that might have made him react this way.  Just a thought, but do you think he was married?  And if he was, that would be a good reason because most married men drop their "friendships" cold if they are married for the fear that their wives are getting too close to finding out what's happening.  Think about it.  All I can tell you is that in the end if someone is going to "drop" you like that then they are not worth you feeling sadness and hurt over them.  The reality is that sometimes in life we all come acrosee cruelty.  My suggestion, move on with your life, forget about him, and wake up with a smile on your face every day and go for the best in life.  No one is worth all this sorrow.