Can Zoloft withdrawl make people really mean?

[idunnowho]

Ok long story short. My girlfriend has been on Zoloft 2 years, before we met.. We have been dating 8 months everything was nice, and normal. She was sweet, caring, and understanding of everything. Then she ran about about a month, and a half ago. For the last month she has blew up at every small thing there is. She is very hard to talk to, its like she see's it as a huge problem if I ask a question, and that'll just make her just blow up even more, or be snappy. I mean she is hurting me, and if I mention that. I'll get well why do you wanna be with me then if I'm hurting you?? It's like she no longer cares about us at all. Things that didn't even used to matter is a issue now. If I ask a question, I get blown up at, and told I'm trying everything in the world to please everyone. Baby cry's for one sec, she gets mad.. Everything in the world is basically a issue now. She snaps at basically everything now. She really isn't the same person since she quit taking them, I've never seen her act like this in my life. If our relationship was at stake usually shed all be trying to fix it, or apologize, or even cry now she's more of an angry mean person that don't really care, That says I dunno anything anymore... Then she'll say she does care the next day, and loves me and she never letting go etc, and sometimes cry, and say she was just frustrated, and then act like nothing never happened. Then the next day be distant as can be, and really quick to talk, or text, and be snappy. Then another day the most loving caring person again? I don't get it at all? Can Zoloft withdrawal really cause all this?  She blames being off the meds as a big part in the way she is acting. She told me to make her an appointment with a doctor she don't have the time she works etc (which she just recently started, which is also causing stress to her)... I'm not sure if I can do that for her I told her. But I'd try to get her a doctor. Seems she even got mad about that..

[Paxiled]

Someone said on here withdrawal influences hormones.  I don't believe that's the case -- it's the body's attempt to go back to working naturally as neurotransmitters wake up that have been dormant while the medication altered the natural way the body works.  But that's a small point.  The bigger point is, something made her stop taking her meds and it's not the difficulty of getting in touch with her doctor -- these meds have refills and when they're going to expire the pharmacy usually lets you know and faxes the prescribing physician for a refill.  If the doctor requires a visit to do this, you have to do it well in advance, as getting appointments takes time.  I'm sure she knows this if she's been on medication for any length of time.  Also, this is always best done with a psychiatrist who specializes in these types of meds -- many regular docs don't even know or care about withdrawal.  (Many psychiatrists, frankly, don't either).  My feeling is, she decided not to take her meds for a reason we don't know and you don't know and she isn't saying, but this doesn't sound good.  She needs help, but keep in mind, you haven't known her long, and her problems may be more severe than what she's told you or you've observed.  You can't save her.  You can try to help, but if she doesn't try to help herself by getting therapy and staying on her meds and doing her homework about what happens if you stop taking them, you may be in over your head here.  I hope not, but again, mental illness is an illness.

[idunnowho]

I'm sorry wasting everyone's time. Seems it wasn't all about her meds. As for your question she claims she didn't wanna have to depend on a pill to feel normal, and her doctor isn't in this town. Not taking she claims to make her volatile, distant, depressed, and have mood swings. Also she has had a history of abuse in her life she says, and she is angry and haven't dealt with it instead she has suppressed it.  As you've said I can't help someone that doesn't wanna be helped. I've noticed she has had plenty of time to get to a doctor. She was also out of work 3 days this week. She just got a car a few weeks ago, and has promised daily she was coming over. Even lied as to say she has lost her phone, is to why she couldn't answer phone calls. Come to find out everyday for the past month she has lied to me, and cancelled dates, and plans on me. Every time she didn't answer my call's or text she has been at her step moms, and dads house.. I asked why is it so hard to say you have plans? Still she'd lie, and I'd log into FB and see her over her moms and dads just a smiling. So ever since she got freedom (the car). I've become just an option. Now she  told me that she wanted to go there, and have fun and hangout since she hasn't been able to lately. But has done nothing, or even made a effort to see me after a month, and a half.. So I had to delete myself from the equation. Its sad I really loved her, after my divorce, and countless dates that went not far due to similar things like this. I found her it was like she was the perfect one everything matched up, and was great up until she lost those meds, and got freedom. Then i was just an option we live, and learn. She does shows some signs of BPD.

[Paxiled]

Are you saying she just quit cold turkey, without tapering off?  Yes, withdrawal can cause this, but so can stopping an antidepressant when the underlying problem isn't fixed.  But a cold turkey withdrawal is the worst, and can last a long long time for some people and cause emotional problems they didn't originally have.  The problem here is, we don't know what her original problem was, the reason she went on the med in the first place.  It might have been this kind of behavior and thinking, but you weren't around then.  Neither were we.  But yes, withdrawal can cause this and a whole lot more.

[Jerry_NJ]

Yes, help her get in to see a doctor.  What doctor prescribed the Zoloft she was taking.  There may be some help telephone numbers that will give free advice on where to go for medical help, perhaps a clinic if she doesn't have a family doctor.

[idunnowho]

She went off cold turkey. Her prescription she had expired, I've tried to tell her to call her doctor that prescribed them. She acts if that's also a big deal, and she doesn't have time.  I also told her just call, and maybe he'd call her in some till she could get back in to his office. She want do that either.. She want's me to make an appointment with a new doctor for her. I'm really not sure If i can do that, but I'm going to try. Because she says she is to busy to make the appointment. I'm waiting on her to give me a day and a good time for her. Cause she is moving from second to 3rd shift this week. I told her if they let me make the appointment on her behalf, I'll get her in the first day they have available at the time that is good for her. Cause I'm trying not to stress her anymore than she is. And Thank You all for the advice, I'm going to get her some help.

[LovelyLittleLeah]

Yes! Every and any withdrawl causes anger. It is a change in hormones so hers will be all over the place.