Hi rxlynette, I hve been on Effexor before. I couldn't take the severe queasiness and vomiting even though it did easy my depression a bit. I was on quite a high dose but I kept platueing(excuse my spelling). I kept going on higher and higher doses and the nuasea was terrible. when I went off it I had to do it very slowly. It was not pretty. The shocks behind my eyes were so bad I would literally jumped. With the help of my doctor monitoring me I got off it. I had shocks behind my eyes for 6 months. I understand what you are going through although it seems you are having a much tougher time going off it than I did. I went on Paxil after I got off Effexor and it is a God Sent for me. I was leary because I didn't hear good things about Paxil but I have to say it was worth going through the withdrawls from Effexor to be put on somethineg that really works for me with none of the side effects that Effexor has. I'm crossing my fingers for you. You might not believe this but you sound like a strong person. You are stronger than you give youself credit for. With that strenght I knnow you can get though the withdrawls. They won't last forever even though they might feel like they will.
Your story sounds so rough, and I offer my sympathies to you.
The thing with Effexor is it's an SNRI. (Seratonin Norepinephrine Reuptake Inhibitor.)
In short, it blocks the release of the stress hormone Norepinephrine from your brain. Norepinephrine triggers adrenaline. No stress hormone releasing, no surges of adrenaline resulting in anxiety. The anti-depressant part needs no explanation.
What's interesting is in some people it can become a stimulant. It's not uncommon for drugs to start to have adverse reactions in our system with time. Since our biochemistry changes as we age, our bodies can need/tolerate differently.
Knowing how a drug works can sometimes make a difference in how we take it/go off of it. Does your Dr know exactly how much fear you have about this? He might be able to find another drug for you to switch over to to help ease your symptoms yet still offering the chemicals you need for proper daily function. Sometimes there are simply drugs that can be added to a regimine to aid in lowering side effects of withdrawal, that can be taken out fo the regimine after the drug is completely gone from your system and your withdrawal has been completed.
When it comes to alternative medications, and replacement meds there are "evils" in all the meds we take. The thing is this, we all respond differently, and what works for some will make others work. What people will swear are the worst invention will work like a "miracle pill" for others.
Going off of the Effexor in minute increments is definitely a better way to go than cold turkey. Speak with your Dr and make an action plan of your changing of meds. Do research into Effexor and the side effects. Drugs.com can offer clinical information if you dig deep enough, and you can learn a lot more about the med and the dosages as well as the life of the drug in your body.
Once you have your action plan with your Dr, be sure you get a physical support network in the form of friends and relatives that can offer assistance when you need it, like if you're having a particularly bad day and just need to go be by yourself. Make sure they're educated in the symptoms of your withdrawal, so if they get overly concerned they'll know what's going on and not freak out and make the situation worse.
Effexor isn't addictive. You CAN come off of it. Your biochemistry simply isn't going to allow it without a struggle. Your body asking for a "fix" is it's panic mechanism. Your anxiety, whether you are conscious of it and why it's peaking, is what will drive you. The drug itself isn't addictive, but we can find ourselves afraid of withdrawal and the "jonesing" is our natural reaction to avoid unpleasantness. Since you're more than aware of what withdrawal is like, your consciousness might want to go off of Effexor, but your subconscious is what starts to tell your body differently. You have great strength, but you're still only a human. Fear is a strong emotion, and you've been vocal about it with us. If you can speak about it, then what is bubbling underneath your conscious controlled surface can be a cauldron of anxiety and terrification.
Since this deals with your mind-set- both the conscious and the subconscious, some coping stratagies I'd recommend are exercise, relaxation thechniques, mindfullness exercises. Yoga can help, as does meditation. Developing a spiritual mind-set is always beneficial, as you have someone/something else who is stronger than you to lean on for the strength to carry on when you feel like you can't take anymore.
Your courage is admirable, and your determination is commendable. You CAN do this. You know your body better than anyone else, so make sure you're vocal with what you're going through with your Dr. Drs aren't mind readers.