I'm sorry you are going through this. I also suffer from depression. I think I was born with it, but it has become more prevalent now that I'm in my teens. Depression is my single worse weakness and I know how hard school can be with it (almost dropped out last year). My family was very much like yours because they all believed depression didn't exist and that I was just looking for attention. The truth was, I had emotional trauma from my childhood that carried over and contributed to the depression. My parents didn't know about my sexual abuse and PTSD, and continued to make me feel guilty about isolating myself from everything and not going to school. It got so bad that my dad called the school and didn't know what to do. They sent me to a psych hospital, where they notified my parents that I was suicidal. They were horrified and felt horrible for the way they treated me those past months. A week later I told them about my abuse. They were very understanding and since then have helped me with my depression. My aunts, cousins, and uncles understand but still think I'm crazy. I realize now that guilt is a very strong factor contributing to depression and I've been focusing more on myself and my well-being. Please don't let people get you down. I know it's hard but once you stand up for yourself and tell everyone to go to hell you'll feel SO much better. My grandma is a master at making people feel bad (she wants my parents separated), and I haven't seen her in MONTHS and I feel great. Know that you haven't done anything wrong. It's their fault for the way they treat you and you don't deserve any of their ****. Don't let people take advantage of you like that because they all have problems and it's easy to bash on someone else. Oh and my dad's trying to get my to go to church, too. Even though I love him, he's an imbecile. He's changed religion like 4 times now and I'm through following him. Church isn't gonna solve your problems unless you want it to, and there are many different ways to keep you occupied. Be strong and fight for yourself.
You are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for.
Thank you for taking the time for answering me and sharing your experiences with me. Sounds like we have a lot in common and for that I feel like I am not alone. I am 50y/o and you are wise beyond your years and will take your advice but it is so hard because of the guilt factor.
I am sorry that you were abused and felt that you had to keep it to yourself. But I am glad that your parents finally know, as they should so that you get the proper help and the support you desperately need in this situation. I guess we both have long roads ahead of ourselves but at least we are not alone.
Thank you so much----one of the best xmas presents I could have received
Have a Merry Christmas
No we aren't alone. Thinking that just makes me feel lonely. My therapist suggested going to a group therapy for people who have been abused. At first I was appalled she would even suggest something like that, but now that I've had time to think about it, I feel like it could benefit me. Maybe you should consider going to a group therapy for depression?
Remember that depression won't last forever.
I'm very glad I helped you :)
So glad that you feel that you are not alone. I am also glad that you find support in therapy group. I am 50y/o and have been going to counselors, therapists, and psychiatrists, not to mention support groups since I was in my very early twenties. That just doesn't seem to work for me. This website to me is a godsend and I find a lot of support here as well. As far as depression not lasting forever that is not true at least not for me. I have been on so many of the new meds and their lasting affect would be around 5 to 6 months and then I would be at the depths of despair and depression again. I even had about 30 electroshock treatments but that did not work. It was when my doc tried an old antidepressant from the 50's or so, it is called Parnate that I started to find an almost immediate relief. So far it is the only med that has lasted for about a year without any setbacks. But I know eventually my depression will come back. I have refactory depression where the meds work for awhile and then I am depressed again. What hell that is. So even though I am feeling great now and am making plans for my future by going back to school and getting off of disability which I have been on since 2002....I know that one of these days hopefully depression will never strike again. But I don't think of that during my days or nights, I just enjoy the time and the "normal" life I have now and deal with it when and if it happens (God willing it won't).
Much luck to you and getting stronger and happier in your life.
Talk to me anytime you want if you need someone to talk to me.
I mean it.
Angela, i am still here as a friend. I don't know what has happened, but please remember that i do care. Whatever has happened, don't let it interfere with you getting your degree. You have to take care of yourself first. I am still your friend and am here for you to vent your frustrations. God be with you.