I just got married 4 days ago, and prior to our marriage, my wife was going through major mood swings. Her nephew said that it would probably go away after our marriage, but... These have been going on for well over a year, but have become more pronounced over the last 2-3 months. She used to go from being a very loving woman, glad to be with me, and very tender, to being angry and wanting to break up. There are stages she goes through. First, she starts feeling a low sense of self-worth, usually connected to her heritage (she is Hispanic), and makes racial slurs, or references to me not wanting to be with a Hispanic woman (I am white). This is followed by anger over some minor thing, usually made-up, or something taken out of context...she even will twist something I say to make it something she can get angry about. This is followed by statements that she doesn't need anyone, and she does the "independent" thing, where she basically refuses to talk to me, and refuses to sleep in the same room with me, opting to sleep in a closet or on the floor in another room (instead of a couch or something like that). Sometimes this is accompanied by violent outbursts, and statements that she is breaking up with me. I have 2 children from a previous marriage ages 8 and 10. At times this affects them also, as they stay with me almost every weekend. My 10 year old son is Autistic, and the last weekend he stayed over, he actually made the statement that I promised him he would always be welcome. She always denies that any of this has anything to do with her, and even told me that my son didn't say that, even though she was not present when he did (the depths of her denial). As our wedding got closer and closer, these episodes have become much more frequent, where they are happening weekly. We have only been married for 4 days, and today she started another episode and actually started hitting me and grabbing me by the throat, broke her blackberry that is on my company account, stating she had enough and wants a divorce. This was after I showed her in her own texts that she once again started this, where she started it, and over what (her having black hair and brown eyes, and my kids having blond hair and blue eyes, even though I said nothing like that in the texts, and never even talked about my kids), along with my constant pleas for her to please stop. This is usually her final stage, where she tries to hurt me any way she can, mentally, and lately, physically. It takes her a day to cool off, and then she wants to act like nothing ever happened, that she did nothing wrong, or if she does acknowledge she did something wrong, it was both of us. Sometimes she tries to bargain...if she does this or that, or acts in a certain way, then I have to do something also. Once she even tried to tell me I had to give up visitation with my kids except for one weekend a month. I am hoping there is a magic pill or something that can make all of this go away, because when she is in her 'normal' moods, I really do love her and love being with her.
Please help me...I don't know what to do!